at 9:38AM on Sep 18
“if Bey is not okay with her body as it looks how are we really supposed to believe any of her feminist declarations?”
Really? So if someone identifies as feminist, they must be absolutely perfect, never fall short of their ideals, and have a superhuman immunity to the pressures of the systemic misogyny that affect *all women*? Nevermind the added burden of white supremacy that affects Black women?
Incredibly unrealistic and unfair, if you ask me. There is NO PERSON in the history of the world that lived up to all their ideals all the time and never found themselves caught up in some of the social ills that they fought against. If the standard for feminism is perfection, then no one in the world is actually a feminist. No one is really an anti-racist. No one is really anti-colonialist (I could go on).
At the same time, yes, Beyoncé is a powerful woman who has made a point of speaking out against beauty standards. It’s sad to see that the same woman who made and released Pretty Hurts less than a year ago has decided to photoshop her images to reflect an unrealistic beauty standard. Yes, that contributes to the toxic culture that the rest of us live in.
HAVING SAID THAT, Beyoncé may be beautiful, rich, and powerful, but she is still just one woman. And it is much easier to blame a solitary Black woman for this culture than it is to hold our entire culture and EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US who participates in it responsible. Do you wear makeup? Push up bras? Spanx? Do you diet because you want to be skinnier and hotter? Do you spend money supporting companies and people who use photoshop like this? People in glass houses, y’all.
at 8:14PM on Aug 10
Yeah… really sad. He was obviously extremely mentally ill.
at 7:01PM on Aug 6
I so want to be able to support Kim in this, because she *is* the OG… but like you said, the rhymes just aren’t that good and it’s just not that hot. Which makes it kinda sad… :\
at 5:45PM on Aug 4
Ok, the end was adorable. The divorce rumours seem even more outlandish now.
But also… I wonder if they feel good about the fact that they have an arena of people chanting “Eat the cake, Anna Mae,” a line that comes from a depiction of domestic violence against Tina Turner… a real person who is still alive. It really creeps me out that something that is actually so violent and hateful is included in a performance that is supposed to be sexy, fun etc.
at 10:58AM on Jul 29
Also, I have no idea whether he has actually been cheating, but it always amazed me that everyone seemed to just forget about everything Jay has told us about himself as soon as he was with Beyoncé. All of a sudden everyone believes 100% that he’s this great family man who is an amazing and monogamous partner for a woman just because he’s with Bey? I have adored Jay since wayyy back, but I always found that hard to believe.
I saw him at Pemberton in 2008, and he did a verse about f*cking groupies that ended with “but don’t tell the Mrs.,” and that was his lead-in to Crazy in Love. Really classy.
at 10:54AM on Jul 29
Jay and Bey are the type of people who know exactly what they want and will work their asses off to get it, no matter what the cost. If anyone could keep a marriage going despite any obstacle, even cheating, it’s them.
That said, if Bey decided she was done, I could see her having the courage to end it despite how difficult it would be. But that’s so not the impression I got watching her visual album. She seemed more committed than ever. That could just be part of the brand, but again, if that’s what she wants for her life that’s what she’s gonna get.
And while this may relate to her girl power brand, I don’t see why it necessarily has to be about feminism. Feminism is about the belief that women should have social, political, and economic equality with men, and choosing to be in a relationship with a man who is not sexually monogamous does not necessarily make her less of a feminist. I hate how “feminism” is (mis)used to make moral judgments about any and every choice a woman makes.
at 1:22PM on Jul 16
She really is insufferable, isn’t she? Someone needs to spend many, many hours in a therapy group…
at 4:27PM on Jul 11
I love how even she appears to be staring at them
at 4:34PM on Jul 9
Courtney Love is 50?!
at 9:37AM on Jul 2
This is disgusting. The ONLY positive thing about any of this is that he’s giving us a perfect case study to discuss emotional manipulation/abuse, harassment, and stalking in intimate relationships. Still really hoping Paula goes for a restraining order.