Of Toys & ‘Mindful’ness


Last night I met up with my friend Tony for a last minute dinner date after his schedule freed up. We met for dinner at The Grove and spent much of our time catching up with one another. I hadn’t been able to see him since late last Summer so he had yet to be filled in on what has been going in my newly single life and I got caught up on his life. I’m happy to share that we had a great night out and I’m hopeful that we won’t go that long again without hanging out together again. The rest of the evening was spent at home … with just my mindful thoughts.

After dinner, Tony and I did a bit of shopping and he COMPLETELY CONVINCED ME to buy the jumbo-sized Batman Pop! Vinyl Figure pictured here. I mean, I love Batman so much that there really wasn’t much arm-twisting involved. Besides, adding a fun new toy like this to my collection can’t help BUT cheer me up when I need a little boost. I was reminded how much I enjoy spending time with Tony and after I filled him in a bit on what I’ve been thru since the end of my relationship last November, I was reminded a bit of how far I’ve come … and what I have left to deal with in the coming week. I’ve been doing my best to stay active and occupied with friends and activities so that I don’t dwell too much on my painful breakup … but that alone hasn’t been totally able to keep me sane. I’ve been trying to be more mindful of finding peace within myself as best I can. I’m interested in trying to learn meditation techniques and I’m so grateful for source material to focus on like the newly launched and aptly named magazine Mindful … this from the press release:

Mindful is published by the Foundation for a Mindful Society, the non-profit organization that is responsible for the leading meditation lifestyle website, Mindful.org … More than 20 million Americans today use meditation techniques like mindfulness—and the number is only rising,” says Mindful publisher James Gimian. “In this growing market, we have a readership that is motivated, highly educated and looking for ways to focus their energy and improve their quality of life. This sustainable model makes Mindful as powerful for companies wanting to reach this demographic as it is for readers themselves.” Mindfulness is the simple but powerful practice of awareness—being present to whatever is arising in the moment. Mindfulness practice cultivates universal qualities of the mind, heart, and body and does not require anyone to change their beliefs. It is also a way of living that enriches quality of life through heightened awareness and compassion … Mindful: Taking Time for What Matters gives voice to the millions of North Americans who are discovering the benefits of mindfulness in all aspects of daily life. It offers a broad range of articles, advice, and insights for people excited about the positive effects that mindfulness is having on the world today. Mindful is a magazine, a conversation, a community—and a lot more. It explores taking time for what matters in traditional print form, website and social media, and community-building initiatives including events, salons, meetings, and more.

It’s funny how life works sometimes. If you’re smart enough to pay attention, you see that what you need to endure is sometimes right in front of your face. I’ve had a hard time dealing with the loss of my 6+ year relationship and with February 17th just around the corner (the date that used to be my anniversary), I’ve been feeling the pangs of sadness begin to grow again. I’m doing my best to stay focused and be mindful and meditative all on my own but … it’s not easy. I completely maintain that things happen the way they’re supposed to happen and hopefully this pain will serve a greater, positive purpose later on down the line.

So … just having resources like Mindful magazine (learn more about the mag HERE), having loyal and loving friends and having the ability to stay active has served me well lately. I keep saying to myself that I just need to get past February 17 and then I can move forward completely, without looking back. I have faith that I will be successful but … I’ll be doing my best in the meantime to stay focused on a healthy state of mind, heart and soul.

  • nicole

    wait…those Pop! Vinyl Figurines come in jumbo size?! i’ve been missing out!

    Trent, i think you’ll be just fine on Feb 17th. you seem to have such an amazing support system around you – be it on the blog or you’re friends.

    • @nicole — I had no idea they came in jumbo size either but this one is about 9″ tall :D

    • nicole

      :O oh man..i’ve been on the hunt for the Khal Drogo figurine, but now i need to find it in jumbo size.

    • Meghan

      I had no idea they come in jumbo size! I have three of the small size and a few of their plushies, but I need a jumbo sized vinyl!

      Trent, you are a great guy whose blog has enriched my life for many years. Stay strong, think positive and this will pass!

  • rOXy

    I love the new Batman toy! You’re such a kid at heart. You are doing EVERYTHING you should be to make this transition in the healthiest way possible. When feelings of sadness threaten to overwhelm, remember those are only emotions, then look around and immerse yourself in dwelling on all of the wonderful things you have in your life to be thankful for. It works for me, and in no time at all, there are no storm clouds left in my sky. Sometimes I think I just want to climb down into that self pity pit, but then I remind myself that I really don’t. You have a wonderful life, even though it isn’t currently exactly as you would like it to be, you are infinitely blessed. :)

  • Jstar

    One of my goals for 2013 was to try mediation. I have found wonderful links on youtube for all kinds of guided mediation or just nice music to zone out to. So far I have noticed that even 5 minutes every other day has helped!! Best of luck for enduring the 17th, you will be fine, stronger and more self aware in no time!

  • mandylala

    “I completely maintain that things happen the way they’re supposed to happen and hopefully this pain will serve a greater, positive purpose later on down the line.” Indeed.

  • Bekah

    Thank you for your honesty, Trent. I am going through a break-up myself. Things haven’t been easy, but reading your blog every day manages to brings a smile to my face. I keep trying to take things one step at a time and reading about your journey over the last few months has been immensly helpful. Big hugs!

    ps – your Batman Pop! Vinyl figurine is awesome!

  • Iris B

    Oh Trent. I feel your pain, over and over again, but I am happy to see that you are doing your best to do your best. You inspire me to do the same.

  • Jennifer Wilson

    trent im sending healing, loving energy to you…as always!

  • emily

    Trent, thank you for sharing with us. I can’t believe it was only Nov when the break up happened … you have accomplished so much in that time … marathons, reclaiming your house, reuniting with old friends … such healthy and positive ways to live your life. Keep it up Trent, we’re all rooting for you! Phsh, 2/17 will come and go … and your life will continue to move up and out to great things.
    May I suggest The Miracle of Mindfulness? It’s THE resource for mindfulness, original material … http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Miracle_of_Mindfulness
    Translated into English in 1975, originally written by a Vietnamese monk, Thich Nhat Hanh, it’s all about being present and mindful in the moment and liberating yourself. The last book you’ll need on the topic.

    • @emily — Yes, thank you so much! I’ll find this. And thank you for your very sweet comment. Support like yours has been really overwhelming and very much appreciated. Thank you so much!! oxoxo

    • emily

      Ah! Trent, thank YOU … you’ve been keeping all us PITNBRs happy for years and it’s time we return the favor. I was actually thinking about breakups last night and how they deserve a period of mourning, like a real death. Then I thought of you and how you’re moving forward in such healthy, positive ways and I thought, “That’s how you do it!” I’m sure you have lonely moments, but know that you are well loved my many real and virtual friends throughout the world.

  • Diana

    Trent, I agree with Emily’s comment. I can’t count how many times in the past 7 years I have come to your website when I was down for whatever reason. I know you can and will get through this! I’m glad you are concentrating on your health, both physical and mental.