Earlier this week we learned that All My Babies Mamas, a new reality show that was supposed to come to the Oxygen network, had been cancelled. I know thousands of people everywhere were rejoicing over this news, and while I think it was ultimately for the best, I was definitely a bit reluctant to completely dismiss the series right away. One thing that kept bugging me was that, although Shawty Lo and his 10 different baby mamas were pretty distressing to watch, there are sooo many other shows that are, IMO, just as bad. Enter MTV‘s Teen Mom. At the very least, we could argue that Shawty Lo was a man who was involved in his childrens’s lives. He def didn’t come off like Dad of the Year but at least he and his baby mamas all had custody of their kids! Jenelle from Teen Mom does not have custody of her first son. and if you ever watched the show you know that it’s probably a good thing (although her Mom, who’s raising little Jace, was pretty f’d up in her own special ways). Anyway, Jenelle recently got married and has just announced that she’s expecting a second child. So yeah. I have big plans to judge her and everyone else who supports her– including the folks over at MTV. Join me inside for more! Again, I warn you, I’m really about to judge these people. Okay. You’ve been warned. Don’t judge me back, lmao!
MTV Act has the report:
Rumors have been swirling that Jenelle Evans from “Teen Mom 2” and her new husband, Courtland Rogers, 27, are expecting a baby. This might concern people who are already worried about Jenelle — she doesn’t have custody of her son, she’s dealt with a number of legal problems, and her relationship with her mother is strained. In the first interview with Jenelle about the topic, we can confirm that her pregnancy is true, “I missed a few birth control pills, and found out I was pregnant at a doctor’s appointment. I was really surprised.”
“Me and Jenelle are so happy that she’s pregnant,” Courtland said to Star in their most recent issue, adding that Jenelle’s looking forward to “a second chance.” Courtland, like Jenelle, also has a child who is in another person’s custody. Courtland told the magazine that he “really wants” to do a MTV spin-off show with Jenelle and it’s under consideration. We can report that it’s not true and there is no new show in the works for the newlyweds.
“I know a lot of people will say we’re not ready, or judge me from my past. I want to prove to everyone that I can do this,” said Jenelle over the phone. “This wasn’t planned, but it happened so we’re taking it as we go. Courtland and I are happy and excited now. We have our own place, we’re married, and we’re both working. We know having a child can be difficult, but we’re going to do our best.
Jenelle is right. While initially learning of a pregnancy can be a very happy time, the reality of parenthood — especially such young parenthood — isn’t all cute baby clothes and adorable Instagram photos. It’s not uncommon for teen moms to have a second babywithin 24 months of their first — this happens with one out of four teen moms. Another scary stat: Not even half of teen moms will graduate from high school, and the amount who will graduate from college by the age of 30 is just over one percent.
The good news is that being a teen parent is 100% preventable. Learn your options and how to protect yourself with It’s Your (Sex) Life. And since its launch in 2009, “Teen Mom,” has drawn millions of viewers with its honest depiction of the lives of teen moms. You can watch the show on Mondays at 10/9c.
Okay. This is why I EFFING can’t stand the way MTV handles these girls. Notice how this piece appears to be stressing the fact that Jenelle has a hard road ahead, teen parenthood is 100% preventable, blah blah blah. It’s bullshit. Teen parenthood IS 100%, but if I was a teen, and I was kinda bored, and I sorta wanted more attention, and I saw that there was a show called Teen Mom, and allllll the girls on that show were celebrities (of some sort), why the EFF would I try to prevent my own personal teen pregnancy???!!! I watched Teen Mom for years (fa yeeeears!) and after a while I finally came to the conclusion that it was the worst. It DOES NOT do what it pretends to do, which is to show how hard it is to be a teen Mom. All those girls are, for all intents and pursposes, perfectly fine. They have their own money, they have their own homes (a lot of them) and– most importantly– most of them still have some kinda connection with their babydaddies (this is important because it “proves” the theory that getting pregnant by someone is the best way to keep them around forever/for 18 years). Oh, and then they have these super-cute babies who drive them crazy sometimes, but they all still love them, and it was totally worth it, blah blah blah.
That concludes me MTV rant. Now on to Jenelle. Who already started sharing baby bump pictures, cause it’s so cute that she’s pregnant again:
I try, you guys. I try. I really, really, really try not to Mommy-bash! Because anyone at anytime could Mommy-bash me, when I think I’m doing a decent job with my kids. It’s tricky to judge moms when you’re a mom, and when you’re hyper-aware of all the lies Moms have to tell themselves to survive, lol. But OMG! NO! STOP GETTING PREGNANT! Figure out how to be a Mom to your first child before you worry about making a new one with your new husband, who ALSO doesn’t have primary custody of his child! The reason I brought up All My Babies Mamas is because at LEAST that series would have showcased a family (that was, definitely, hella ratchet), where adults were in their children’s lives. MTV has put young women (and men) in the limelight who make babies and then don’t WOMAN up and raise them! Lots of women don’t raise their kids, or don’t raise them well, and there are all sorts of complicated reasons as to why– class, race, society, culture, emotional issues, Mommy issues, Daddy issues, mental health issues, etc., etc. All these things should be explored. We should be interested in WHY some people suck ass at parenting (and honestly, I think it has VERY little to do with age because there are many amazing, responsible teen parents and just as many horrible, irresponsible grown ass parents), and we should be investigating these things, but we should not glorify them. And I don’t care what MTV says, or pretends to say about girls like Jenelle, but they are glorifying this madness.
And I’ll admit that my rage comes partly (hell, largely) from my experiences living in the custody of people other than my birth mother, before I was adopted. MTV is, obviously not the issue here. Teen moms, single moms, and bad moms have been around for quite some time. But when you make it cool to be a bad parent (and they have done this), then you suck. You suck more than Shawty Lo‘s All My Babies Mamas, and that’s a pretty hard suck.
Rant complete. Best wishes to Jenelle. All babies are miracles, and I really do hope that she appreciates this miracle and that perhaps it will encourage her to appreciate the first miracle in which she was lucky enough to participate.