Hello, 2013


And so, 2012 is gone and 2013 is here. Happy New Year, everyone. I hope you made it to the new year relatively unscathed after a night of revelry and fun. I ended up enjoying a fairly relaxed and quiet night with my friends Steph and Alek and welcomed the new year in comfort and peace. I managed to squeeze one last run before the end of the year yesterday afternoon and then last night, supped and celebrated with my friends. I am happy to report that it was a good night … for which I am very thankful.

My first race of 2013 will take place Saturday night in DTLA so I have to get back into the swing of running again. I went out for a quick 3 mile run yesterday and I’m planning to go for a longer run tomorrow. I ended 2012 having run 457 miles, including my training runs and races. That’s like running from LA to Las Vegas and back. Not too shabby, I think. Let’s see how many miles I can run in 2013 ;)

Last night, I was invited to spend New Year’s Eve with Steph and Alek in their home. They invited another friend over to celebrate and we supped on a delicious meal and popped some champagne as we counted down to midnight twice … once for the East Coast and once for the West Coast:

We enjoyed a French “log” cake and then ate 12 grapes for a prosperous new year. These are both NYE traditions that I’ve never done before but it was nice to share the moment with these great friends.

I couldn’t help but dwell a bit on the fact that last night was my first NYE as a solo man in 6 years and, while difficult, it wasn’t nearly as bad as I feared it would be. I hate that I can’t look back on 2012 and really celebrate the year. It started out as the happiest year ever and ended as the unhappiest … but there were so many great moments in 2012 that I will always remember and cherish, someday. I was able to celebrate with 8 sets of friends who got married last year … that’s a whole lotta love, definitely worth remembering. I found and hired Shannon to write for the blog and I think every single one of you will can acknowledge that she has added so much to Pink is the New Blog. We are all so lucky to have her. I started my life as a runner, something that completely shocks me still to this day. I ended up running a 5K, 4 10Ks, 4 half marathons and 1 full marathon all in the span of just 8 months. And yes, I got engaged to the love of my life. It’s going to be a very long time for me to be able to really look back fondly on that happy moment considering the fact that my 6 1/2 year relationship came to a sudden end this Fall but logically, I must acknowledge that at the time, it was the happiest moment of my life. But that part of my life is over. I will never truly understand why things ended they way they did but I do know that life turns out the way it’s supposed to turn out.

Every day is still very hard for me. There are so many little things that slap me in the face just when I’m able to forget for a minute. Something as simple as changing the bed sheets reminds you that you don’t have someone on the other side of the bed to help you put on the fitted sheet and tuck in the corners. Pulling out clothes from the closet that remind you of a trip you took with your partner or hearing a special song accidentally on the radio … these things happen all the time. I know eventually they will happen less and less and life will go on but, man, do they really suck when they happen in the immediate now. I never dreamed on January 1, 2012 that my life would be so different on January 1, 2013 but I’m going to try and be as hopeful as possible that somewhere between today and January 1, 2014 my life will be very different again, possibly for the much better and happier.

I’m also a little astounded that I’m moving into another year of blogging with all y’all. I look forward to fun times ahead to share with all of you and I wish each and every one of you the happiest of new years. We don’t know what 2013 will bring but we will find out together. Happy January! Love to you all.

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  • rOXy

    Happy New Year to you Trent! I was out in the streets up in your neck of the woods yesterday. I thought of you and sent good wishes on the wind to you. Heartbreak sucks – there’s no way around it, only through it. You will be stronger and wiser when you emerge on the other side, although no one can tell you how long that will take. YOU are an amazing person, and you are SO worthy of love and I have every confidence it will find you when you’re ready. I know romance is the last thing on your mind atm, you have sheets to change and clothes to cry over, but when it does happen, your heart will sing and you will spark with life. It is going to get better, just be gentle with yourself and do the things you love to do and spend time with the people you love. xoxoxo

  • Danielle

    I’m pulling for you, Trent! You’re right… Those subtle memories never fully go away and they pop out at you out of nowhere and they’re damn awful at the time. But it does all fade in time and I have so much admiration for you and your positivity. Really excited to see where 2013 takes you! :)

  • Ashen
    • Ashen

      ok ok :heart:

  • elle sees

    Looooooooongtime reader of yours–as in when you lived in Detroit, were in another relationship, and pitnb had a different address! I’ve loved the blog and following your life through ups and downs. Trent, you are an amazing person. The best is yet to come, my friend. This is your year and I wish you nothing but amazing things and love.

  • Celine

    Trent, I’ve been following your blog for years and I relish the moment I met you at the Rufus Wainwright concert at the Hollywood Bowl in 2007 (!!)… I think I thanked you for helping me waste countless work hours :) I’ve never been compelled to comment on posts, as much as either enjoy them or just want to add something. But I just had to now. Thank you so much for providing those of us who are chismosas who have a) great senses of humor and b) excellent taste in blog writing with so much joy, for so many years. And thank you for gifting us with Shannon, who is smart and stanklarious. I’m so sorry you’re going through such a hard time – especially since you seem to give so freely and generously of your love – all your posts that celebrate your friends and family are so genuine and sweet. Those of us who have been lucky enough to love so hardcore … unfortunately have felt the stinging loss in its absence. I feel for you, and I can only say that this is a transition. Whatever gives you health and comfort in this time – go for it. Your spark that sets you apart is always there, and it will reignite tenfold this year. We love you, homie!

    • rOXy

      Gorgeous post, Celine.

    • @Celine – <3

  • Krissy

    Very well said, Celine.

  • Shannon

    Trent, I’m so glad you had fun last night! I hope you know that YOU and this amazing space we call a blog COMPLETE ME. 2013 is gonna be amazing, I promise. Probably not January 2013, but definitely, like, mid-to-late 2013 :)

    @Celine ‘smart and stanklarious’ ?!?!?! Then I have done the work the gods sent me to do, lmao! Thank you :)

  • Hampton

    I wish you a happy new year. I also have been following your blog from those days in Detroit. Like Princess Z you have grown over the years. When someone asked Rose Kennedy how she endured all that happened to her family she replied “I know not age, weariness nor defeat”. this will be an amazing new world for you this year.

  • Brenna

    I’m with Hampton… I’ve read your blog since you lived in Detroit and I’ve appreciated the fun and humor that PITNB has added to my life. I hope you’ll soon find peace and happiness in 2013. We love you!

  • damnsam

    Happy New Years

  • LaurenL

    Hi Trent,
    Happy New Year to you and yours. I’m grateful that you are opening up like this, I’m going through the exact same thing. I just celebrated my first solo NYE in seven years, and I began running 1/2012 completing two 1/2 marathons this last year. It’s amazing how lives can be parallel. My divorce is proceeding. It’s important for me to remember that I’m not alone in this and I hope you receive the same support, it seems like you do :) Here’s to a better 2013 full of honesty and openness. We do love you!

    • @LaurenL — Wow, we’re like twins ;) Believe me, I feel you and I’m sending you my love and support. Let’s make 2013 an amazing year for the both of us!!! xoxoxo

    • Lauren

      @Trent Thank you so much! I really value the reply. It’s a one day at a time process for me. 2013 is going to ROCK. :)

  • Krissy

    Trent, since reading this post you have really been in my thoughts. There is nothing that can take away the pain that you are feeling right now, but keep in mind…there are a lot of really wonderful people in the world. Getting to know amazing people is truly one of the most important things in life, and now you have the opportunity to get to know some more wonderful souls in a way that you wouldn’t have if you had been in a relationship. While no one could take the place of a former love, sometimes you meet people who show you life through a completely different perspective, one that you could not have seen if you had stayed where you were. I just know that 2013 will be a year of new and exciting experiences for you. I wish you all the best, and know that it won’t be too long before you meet someone who makes you smile in a new and wonderful way.

    • @Krissy — Thank you so much <3

  • Natalie

    Catching up on your blog posts from the last week, and this one brought me to tears. I went through so many similar emotions during my last breakup, to the point where I would spend nights curled in the fetal position, smelling my ex’s shirts. Pretty ridiculous, but I guess we all do whatever we have to in order to cope. I remember my sister told me something back then that really stuck with me- that the pain I was experiencing in those moments would one day seem silly because I would find happiness again. Thankfully, she was right. Two years later, I am a stronger and wiser lady, in a new relationship that knocks the old one out of the water. I know you’ll get to your happy place, too, one day.

    “If you’re brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.” -Paul Coelho

    Peace to you!

  • momo

    I am a long time follower that rarely posts. I’ve had two children since reading your blog and sometimes I don’t get on here as much as i’d like too. Lately I’ve been on here alot more, but not because of the gossip, but because of you. I come on here to see how you are feeling and how your holidays are going. I’m not coming on here so much to read the celebrity gossip as I am to read how my friend is doing. Trent at the risk of sounding creepy, I think of you as a friend. My heart hurts when I hear your heart hurts. I actually thought of inviting you to my Colombian Christmas here in chilly Canada, but I thought you might find that odd (although you are totally welcome to come!!! lol!). Here is the thing though… we all have this connection to you. We are all feeling for you. I think this blog is much more than frivolous goss. It’s you and your personality and your kindness, humor, love and much more.
    ANYWAY, I will NEVER be a blogger because i am not eloquent and i tend to ramble, lol! I just felt compelled to let you know that all of us pulling for you and sending you this positive energy can’t be for nothing! I’m going for the full creep effect and saying LOVE YOU TRENT!!! wishing you a happy, healthy 2013!

    • @momo — I don’t even know what to say. I’m touched beyond words. Thank you so much for your comment, it means more than you know. I’m sending lots of love your way and best wishes for a very happy new year. xoxoxoxoxoxoxox

  • Claire

    You are very, very loved. The last part of your post made me tear up.

  • Gina

    Trent I’ve been following your posts for many years and I like momo read not only for the awesome gossip and news, but for your personal posts about your relationships, friends, running and the movies and shows you to attend. It’s so hard to move on from a relationship, but it does get better. Hoping your New Year finds you happiness and joy!

  • Adriana

    I love all these posts and feel that each message carries a bit of what I’d like to say to you. First and foremost, Happy New Year sweet “friend”. I too have had you on my mind a lot lately and have been sending all the positive vibes I can muster up your way. I hate to think of you sad during this transition in your life but as you said, with each day that passes so will the hurt and sadness that you feel, of that you can be certain. Also, there are so many people who’s lives you’ve touched who are pulling for you and who are here in your corner. May 2013 bring you peace and happiness. xo