Back in July, Odd Future singer Frank Ocean came out publicly as a gay man. Today we learn that Frank opens up a bit more about his coming out in the pages of the new issue of GQ magazine. Frank is included in GQ’s yearly wrap up Men of the Year issue and he uses the opportunity to talk about the letter he posted online that revealed to the world that he is a gay man. I can’t get enough of Frank or his music so this GQ piece is a very welcome one for me. Click below to see a photo from Frank’s GQ spread and read some excerpts from the accompanying interview.
On posting The Letter: The night I posted it, I cried like a fucking baby. It was like all the frequency just clicked to a change in my head. All the receptors were now receiving a different signal, and I was happy. I hadn’t been happy in so long. I’ve been sad again since, but it’s a totally different take on sad. There’s just some magic in truth and honesty and openness.
On his fears about coming out: I had those fears. In black music, we’ve got so many leaps and bounds to make with acceptance
and tolerance in regard to that issue. It reflects something just ingrained, you know. When I was growing up, there was nobody in my family — not even my mother — who I could look to and be like, “I know you’ve never said anything homophobic.” So, you know, you worry about people in the business who you’ve heard talk that way. Some of my heroes coming up talk recklessly like that. It’s tempting to give those views and words — that ignorance — more attention than they deserve. Very tempting. Some people said, “He’s saying he fell in love with a guy for hype.” As if that’s the best hype you can get in hip-hop or black music. So I knew that if I was going to say what I said, it had to be in concert with one of the most brilliant pieces of art that has come out in my generation. And that’s what I did. Why can I say that? Why I don’t have to affect all this humility and shit is because I worked my ass off. I worked my face off. And the part that you love the most is the easiest part for me. So I’ll do it again.
On his alleged bisexuality: You can move to the next question. I’ ll respectfully say that life is dynamic and comes along with dynamic experiences, and the same sentiment that I have towards genres of music, I have towards a lot of labels and boxes and shit. I’m in this business to be creative — I’ll even diminish it and say to be a content provider. One of the pieces of content that I’m for fuck sure not giving is porn videos. I’m not a centerfold. I’m not trying to sell you sex. People should pay attention to that in the letter: I didn’t need to label it for it to have impact. Because people realize everything that I say is so relatable, because when you’re talking about romantic love, both sides in all scenarios feel the same shit. As a writer, as a creator, I’m giving you my experiences. But just take what I give you. You ain’t got to pry beyond that. I’m giving you what I feel like you can feel. The other shit, you can’t feel. You can’t feel a box. You can’t feel a label. Don’t get caught up in that shit. There’s so much something in life. Don’t get caught up in the nothing. That shit is nothing, you know? It’s nothing. Vanish the fear.
Bra-f*cking-Vo! It is so refreshing to hear an intelligent person discuss matters of sexuality in an enlightened way. I must admit, Frank’s coming out is what made me pay attention to him in the first place but once I noticed, once I listened to his music, I became a fan of his talent … not his sexuality. Unfortunately, Frank Ocean will be talking about his sexuality for many, many years to come … it will be his cross to bear. But it sounds like he’s got his head on straight (pardon the pun) … that, coupled with his immense talent will take him very far. It’s impossible not to love this guy. He is deffo one of the Men of the Year for 2012.