‘Basketball Wives’ Star Evelyn Lozada Was Hospitalized After A Fight With NFL Star And Husband Chad ‘Ochocinco’ Johnson [UPDATE]

Ochocinco Is Behind Bars

Oh drama. Does anybody remember that episode of Basketball Wives when Evelyn Lozada told her football-playing fiancée that she understood ‘the game’ and knew she wouldn’t be the only woman he’d be with (sexually), but all she asked was that he tell her about it, and use condoms (true story)? And do you remember her saying that if he did those things and ‘kept it real’ with her, she couldn’t do anything but respect him for that (as in for sleeping with other women)? Well I remember that episode. And I remember thinking, why is she lying to him????? If she ever gets that call or finds out he was with someone else she is going to kill him! Or at least try! If you’ve watched the show you saw how bad it got (and by ‘it’ I mainly mean her); Evelyn was literally the reason people started signing petitions against the show, myself included. I begin this story with this info because the fight they had, which landed Evelyn in the hospital and Chad in jail, allegedly began with Evelyn finding a receipt for condoms in Chad‘s maserati. Hmmm… one can’t help but wonder how this will play out on their reality show, which airs on Vh1 in a few weeks. Deets inside. UPDATE: We have court documents, my friends.

And Chad has since posted bond:

TMZ has the story:

NFL star Chad Johnson was arrested Saturday night for domestic violence … allegedly against new wife Evelyn Lozada, one of the stars of VH1′s “Basketball Wives.”

Law enforcement sources tell us Johnson allegedly head-butted Lozada during an argument, and when cops arrived to the scene, Lozada had lacerations on her forehead.

Our sources say Lozada has been at the hospital for several hours.

According to our sources, the fight started when Lozada found a receipt for condoms in the center of the couple’s Maserati and confronted Johnson about it. A verbal argument ensued.

We’re told at some point during the argument, Johnson head-butted Lozada. According to reports, Johnson told police he butted heads with Lozada by accident.

Johnson is reportedly still in custody and wil have to go before a judge before he can be released.

Johnson and Lozada were married last month after Johnson proposed in November 2010 with a massive 10-carat diamond ring.

Now I really need everyone’s help with this one. If you’ve seen Evelyn in action (and again, if you remember the conversation where she GAVE HIM PERMISSION TO CHEAT ON HER) then it is so difficult to see her as a victim! I know I should be reporting this as an issue of domestic violence, and stressing Evelyn as a victim of abuse… but it’s hard to do that knowing what I know; and for sure, I don’t know the whole story.

What do you guys think? I am in NO WAY saying Chad was within his rights to get violent with her– and I’m very curious as to how you can head-butt somebody ‘by accident.’ I’m sure he was as wrong… as she was.

Oh boy, here I go judging! But uggghhh it’s so hard with Evelyn! She was so reckless and such a bully on Basketball Wives (not that all of the other women were class acts, lmao). I never thought that this would happen, but I knew their marriage wouldn’t be a fairy tale romance. Evelyn herself made that clear the minute she made it okay for him to be with other women. Open relationships are fine, if two people are really open to it! There was no way in hell that Evelyn was really okay with that; maybe some women can quietly accept infidelity or the fact that their husband has other women, but Evelyn was never that woman, in my opinion.

Ultimately, I wish suffering upon no man or woman and I hope that they can work out their issues in a way that makes sense for both of them. Also, I urge all of you to read a comment below from PITNBr ella, who took a very different approach to this story. I want to stress a point she made, which is that any ‘type’ of woman (or man) can be a victim of abuse. Even as we consider Evelyn‘s reality TV history, persona, and relationship decisions it is so, so important that we do not create a victim-blaming atmosphere. Many thanks to ella for pointing this out.

The newlywed’s reality show Ev & Ocho premieres on September 3, on Vh1.

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  1. muchacha

    Oh man. I love Ochocinco, but domestic violence is a true travesty. To me, he always seemed like someone who would never hurt a fly – remember when he put his pigeon on nest-rest?

  2. muchacha

    Also, without knowing all the facts, I will have to disagree with the insinuation that Evelyn somehow brought this on herself. Violence is never the answer, no matter the circumstances.

    • muchacha, I know how I sounded. But don’t you find it hard to believe that ONLY Chad got violent and NOT Evelyn??? We’ve only known one of these people to get violent on the regular– which you kind of pointed out in your first post.

      Of course, violence is never the way to go (for either a MAN or WOMAN), especially with a loved one.

  3. Christina

    Shannon, your analysis is spot on! As much as I want to be sensitive to the domestic violence situation, all I can think about is Evelyn chucking that giant bottle of champagne at Kenya’s head. How many cast members, whether or not they are currently her friends, has she cussed out, threatened or attacked? Combine that mess with a man who has no self-control or filter. This pairing is a recipe for disaster.

    • Christina, thanks for commenting. It’s very tricky because we ‘accept’ (in many ways) women beating each other’s asses, but when a man and a woman are involved the word ‘victim’ comes up, and it’s almost always used to describe the woman. I don’t completely disagree with this way of thinking, but I do find it problematic. It implies that a certain kind of violence is acceptable, and that’s what I don’t want to do here. It’s AS unacceptable for Ocho to head-butt his wife as it is unacceptable for his wife to throw bottles at (and slap, and kick, and punch) other women.

    • KnoteeLdy

      I don’t agree with domestic or other violence against anyone. But, come on, I am not surprised at this at all. I knew it would be something. Karma is something isn’t it. Eve had not sympathy for Jen getting knocked up side the head by Nia or whatever her friend’s name is. She attacked many during her seasons on BB Wives throwing punches, bottles, fists and hitting with clutch purses while using foul language and got her butt kicked by Tami. She is no angel nor is he.

      Jen was right after all :).

    • KnoteeLdy, Evelyn has a lot of work to do if she’s going to eliminate the violence from her life (wherever it’s coming from). Maybe this will help her see some of her wrongs although again I STRESS that it should never come to this.

  4. Samantha

    As soon as I heard about Chad being arrested, I thought about Evelyn throwing wine bottles at that woman in the restaurant and being so angry that she didn’t care if she hit an innocent bystander or killed the girl she was trying to fight. I’m not saying violence of any kind is okay or that I think she someone how brought this on herself, but that is what came to my mind.

    • Samantha, yes. Again I stress, that if Chad head-butted Evelyn then he is right where he belongs. And…… Evelyn should have done some time (and has been sued, I think) for at least one of the many, many times she got violent with another person.

  5. zorbitor

    He shoulda handed her the keys to the car and the house and headed for somebody’s couch … Thats the legally approved reaction.

  6. Mumzy

    Ohhhhh did anyone really think she meant it? I guess he did…clearly….because a very concise and distinguished way to manage the realization of wrongful mis-persuasion is to “head-gash” it into submission. (?) Where can I sign the petition???

    • Mumzy, lmao. I thought that too when i was watching the episode– is he really falling for this? The petition is probably still going around but the point was to get Basketball Wives off the air, which is what happened… I think.

    • Hummer

      This whole situation sounds like Chris Brown and Rihanna all over again! Neither one of them should have gotten married to anyone…especially to each other. How in the world are you going to be married for less than 2 months and having issues like this already?!!! This is almost as bad as K Kardashian being married for what, 90 days?!!…the whole marriage concept is going down the toilet wtih people like this going through the motions!! The few times that I’ve seen these 2, Chad SEEMS mild mannered, and Evelyn seems like a walking friggin’ time bomb! In my opinion, she baited this man by saying he could cheat as long as he told her about it. Come on, be for real! Now you have a man without a job, and a battererd woman. And the way I’ve seen her throw down, he’s probably battered too! Both of them need to seek counseling and keep it moving!!! (separately!) And all these upcoming reality shows they’re supposed to be doing should be cancelled! (for both of their sakes)…..I’m just sayin…” LOL

  7. Hottshoes

    Violence (from either side) is NEVER an appropriate response. This whole thing elicts so many thoughts. I wonder, would the Evelyn that we have seen on BBW, the pissed off, one-upping, reckless version of Evelyn, be so upset with Chad for lying to her that she would use an “accident” or self inflict harm to to get him in trouble? Then I think about how this isn’t Chad’s first accusation of this behavior. Bottom line, I am not willing to believe that he is guilty just b/c he was arrested. I wasn’t there. & I KNOW that there is nothing Evelyn could have said/done to deserve being headbutted by head husband. At this point, I think I have decided to wait and see if Evelyn complies/cooperates with prosecutors or if a week or 2 from now she will be saying this whole thing a “misunderstanding” and Chad never touched her. Evelyn has claimed that she is being her real self on BBW. The BBW Evelyn is no victim. So her standing by this claim or abandoning this claim will say a lot to me. Either way, I know the solution to their problem is not in violence, jail or the hospital.

    • Hottshoes, thanks for weighing in on this. Like I said this ish gets tricky, partly because we don’t know for sure how it all went down. But I think you’re right– it’s going to be interesting to see how things get spun.

  8. Shannon – I think you’re buying into the “ideal victim” narrative. As in, in order to be believed as a victim of violence, you have to reach others’ standards of virtue.

    Often, our standards of virtue are heavily gendered and sexist. In order to be believed, women can’t be perceived as “bitches” or “sluts” (among other things).

    Any kind of woman can be a victim of domestic violence. You are buying into a myth about women who experience abuse – that they are passive, or at least are not aggressive or reactive. I know you would agree that no one deserves to be abused, regardless of how rude or ‘bitchy’ (to use a sexist term) they may be. So please believe that just because someone seems aggressive or extreme, doesn’t mean that they are less likely to get trapped in an abusive relationship. In fact, the fact that they are seen as ‘crazy’ or as ‘bitchy’ can often help the abuser blame the victim for his abuse and get away with it. Because people refuse to believe the victim even when she’s telling the truth.

    If you feel like you can’t condemn Johnson at this point since he hasn’t been convicted of anything, I can respect that. To me this report sounds like a classic case of DV, right down to the ‘accidental’ bullshit. That’s my opinion of course, and I respect that you may not share it.

    But the best thing to do, in my opinion, would be to say that this incident has been reported, and that while you don’t know the facts you hope that everyone is safe and that justice will be done. And leave it at that. By doing this (saying that it’s hard to believe that someone like her could be a victim, and pointing to what she said about having an open relationship and your assessment of whether or not she meant it), Shannon, I have to say that you are making it harder for victims of domestic and sexual violence to speak up. Because this adds to the cultural norm of attacking victims’ characters in order to discredit them.

    So many women stay silent because they think that others won’t believe them, or will bring up things they’ve done or said in the past to discredit them and drag their names through the mud. Or point to things they’ve done in their relationship with the abuser, including mistakes they’ve made, in order to cast doubt on their “innocence” in the relationship. Of course, they shouldn’t have to be “innocent” to be believed – everyone makes mistakes in relationships but the appropriate response is never violence – but we equate innocence with victimhood and then point out victims’ mistakes to ‘prove’ that they’re not victims. Can you see how someone who is struggling with a lot of self-blame for abuse they’re suffering might look at this article and see it as support for the idea that they aren’t really victims, or that no one will believe them if they try to speak up?

    I’ll say it one more time for emphasis – all kinds of women can be victims of domestic and sexual violence. Even women that you don’t like or generally find sympathetic. And they deserve our support to when it comes to abuse too. Abuse is a complicated phenomenon. The fact that someone may be assertive or even aggressive in some situations does not preclude them from being victimized by intimate partners. I don’t expect you to condemn Johnson when you don’t know the facts, but I think that attacking Lozada’s credibility this way is incredibly harmful to women, and I ask you to reconsider.

    With love,

    ella.

    • ella, you know I always appreciate an honest comment. I admitted in the post that what I was saying might be problematic, and I agree with a lot of what you said. EXCEPT I would not describe Evelyn (from what we’ve seen of her) as “someone [who] may be assertive or even aggressive in some situations.” You are describing a STRONG woman. Evelyn has been physically abusive; Evelyn is a physical abuser. That’s different from being strong or assertive. Now you’re right, someone who is a physical abuser can certainly be abused as well and I am NOT trying to imply that there’s no way this could have happened. In fact, I do believe that Chad PURPOSELY got physical with Evelyn.

      Here’s my issue. Of course I think women should be able to come forward and speak to their abuse. AND I brought up Evelyn’s history to paint a full picture of her relationship with Chad. I was less concerned with her violent behavior than I was with the fact that she consented, in a way, to an open relationship. Bottom line, Evelyn AND Chad should have known there would have been some serious beef if either one of them stepped out and slept with someone else!

      BUT none of this changes a very good point you’re making Ella. Which is that people we think are violent, or bad, or stupid, or skanky or whatever can still, at any point in time be a victim of abuse. I think you’re right, and perhaps I should have stressed THAT as much as I stressed the other points. I DEF let my distaste for Evelyn cloud what should have been a balance report.

      I believe in women so hardcore, it’s not even funny! What I mean is, I really do believe we run the world and control our own destinies and are able to determine the direction of a relationship. What I wanted to say is that Evelyn is ALSO responsible for the direction her relationship goes in. At least, I’d like to think that.

      The truth is, I don’t know exactly how to say that any woman is a victim because it implies total lack of agency, and I want to believe that we all have agency at some point. No man or woman can take that away unless he/she’s been given permission.

      And I say all of this knowing that, theories of feminist agency aside, somebody got hurt and that’s never okay, no matter who’s in control of the relationship or whatever.

      I’m glad you commented because I absolutely would not want anyone to read this post and make a personal decision based on my argument about Evelyn. I’m making an adjustment at the end.

      Thanks ella.

    • Shannon,

      I love engaging with you because of your open mind and your willingness to think critically – you don’t automatically accept others’ points of view and yet you’re always willing to reconsider yours when presented with different perspectives. An incredible and rare quality.

      I hear what you’re saying, and I would certainly not want anyone to think that women are powerless. I do, however, think that sometimes, in our efforts to claim our power, we can sometimes overlook the incredible social burdens and systemic oppressions that affect women’s daily lives. There are a lot of social, economic, and political ways in which women (and women of colour especially) are marginalized in our society, and those things interact to make us more vulnerable to abuse. Abuse itself is much more complex than just incidents of violence – it’s a psychological trap that systematically removes victims’ coping mechanisms and support structures, which destroys a lot of their options for fighting back against or leaving the situation.

      But I do appreciate your point about not wanting to portray women as lacking agency. Finding language that acknowledges women’s agency while still recognizing our societal marginalization is a continual struggle. But there is also a difference, in my mind, between saying that someone is nothing but a victim in every instance in their life, and saying that they were victimized in a particular context, circumstance, or relationship. Saying that a woman has been a victim of an abusive relationship is just saying that horrible crimes were committed against her. It doesn’t mean that she’s never made choices or mistakes or had agency, just that crimes were committed against her.

      I do worry about the language of saying, in this context, that either party “should have known” that an open relationship would lead to something. I know you didn’t mean they should have known it would lead to violence, but again, ‘but how did she get herself into that situation in the first place?’ is a very common trope used to discredit victims.

      I don’t know the facts of the situation and what the dynamics of the relationship are. I just know that she ended up in the hospital with a head injury, and he’s claiming it was ‘accidental,’ and that says a lot.

      I’m not saying all this to try to argue against you or anything. I so appreciate what you added to the article! I just know that you consider yourself feminist and enjoy engaging in these kinds of conversations – same with me! – so I’m just throwing all this out there. :)

      With love,

      ella.

    • I tried to post this from my phone but I don’t believe it went through so if I am repeating myself, I apologize.

      I think that while Ella and Shannon both make excellent and fair points, I believe there is one viewpoint that is not fully being represented. While it is important to not to try to discredit a victim of any sort of abuse, it’s worth noting that in some situations, there is not one but TWO abusers. There are just some relationships where both parties engage in physical abuse, which in my opinion means that there isn’t a victim, there is just one person who had the upper hand physically(usually a male) and one person who lost the upper hand(usually the female). In this particular situation, the female has the chance to play the victim card because society usually doles out that card to her immediately. In my opinion, neither one of these people are any more or less the victim.

      Just like we should be diligent in our attempt to not discredit a victim, we should also take into consideration that there ARE women(and men) who take advantage of the system, these are the women(and men) who create problems for TRUE victims of abuse.

      Statistically, a more traditional scene of domestic abuse(a victim and an abuser) may be more likely to happen, but it doesn’t mean that there are not other types of domestic violence. Because these other types of DV happen less frequently than a more traditional type of DV, we shouldn’t jump to assume this in every situation. However, when there are strong facts(a person who has a clear history of violence), I don’t think it’s fair to assume right away that they are the victim, BASED only on the fact that they are a female. YES, ANYone can be a victim. But ANYone can also be an abuser as well.

    • Also, I’d like to state that any spectating on my behalf is just that, spectating. I do not know either of these people personally, I am only basing my opinion on what I have seen on an (admittedly edited) reality show and news articles.

    • janaegal, yes THANK YOU for this. We’ve all, in a way, assumed there is a guilty party and an innocent party and that’s it. So glad you’re painting another, more fluid picture here. I remember my aunt (an anthropologist) once used the word ‘primary aggressor’ (ummm totally not directed at me… errr… lol) and she was saying that there may be one person in a relationship who reacts physically, but the other person may be the primary aggressor and sort of incites or encourages this behavior.

      Again, this language can be SO PROBLEMATIC because if the issue is not properly assessed, it can easily turn into victim blaming. So I’m with you, we can only hypothesize and discuss the many, varied possibilities here. We cannot say for sure what kind of relationship Evelyn and Chad have.

      Again, thank you for such a thoughtful comment.

    • JANE

      KARMA IS REAL…WHAT YOU DO TO OTHERS COMES BACK ON YOU TEN FOLD. N SO HE FOLDED HER HEAD UP . SHE’S VIOLENT AND SO VIOLENCE FOLLOWED HER. I DO NOT CONDOMN ….OOPS CONDONE ! SORRY EV , I KNOW YOU FOUD THAT RECIEPT BUT YOU SAID IT WAS OK FOR HIM TO BE WITH OTHER WOMEN BUT PERHAPS THAT KNOT ON YOUR FOREHEAD WILL BRING BACK YOUR MEMORY. HEY, REMEMBER YOU PICKED AT ERIC WILLIAMS FOR HAVING A KNOT ON HIS FOREHEAD WELL NOW YOU ARE ON THE SAME TEAM. SORRY THIS HAPPENED TO YOU BUT MAYBE NOW YOU WILL EXERT SOME CLASS LESS ONE HEAD KNOT…….

    • ella, again you’ve made so many strong points. And you’re right to point out the victim vs. victimized issue. Neither should signify lack of agency and we can find ways to talk about these things without condemning women or men.

      I am so glad you’re talking about abuse beyond ‘incidents of violence’ and surely, Evelyn could be involved in such a relationship. But I also love what janaegal is saying about the possibility (and maybe probability) of their being two abusers in this situation, which makes a lot of sense to me (again, all from an outside perspective).

      In addition to talking about violence, abuse, and relationships I just wanted to also to talk about personal responsibility (how women can make better relationship decisions, how we can better position ourselves by drawing on our strengths), which is what I think we’re all doing here. I think your comments are really helping to balance out the discussion and for that I THANK YOU :)

  9. angels2watchu

    Please believe me I am not as a Black Woman sticking up for Chad, what he did was totally and completely wrong. If he had put his paws on my child, there would have been extreme and detrimental consequences. However, there is a slogan that says”What Goes Around Comes Around,” and that pertains to Evelyn Lozada. On the show Basketball Wives, which she never was a wife, she bullied eveyone that would let her from Royce to (her so called bet friend) Jennifer. She was vile and nasty. She was terrible. I tried to get her put off the show by sending the network a signed pettion of 500 plus “Black Women”. She had a negative impact on Girls of Color and I guess girls in general. You can’t whip everybody as we now see. It’s called pay back. Her friend Jennifer tried to warn her. “What do you expect when you sleep with a man the first time you see him. DUH!! And check this prediction out Tammy’s next, not just an internet hacker, just because you had a hard life does not give you the right to abuse and bully people. HYell, into each life some rain must fall, suck it up, do what you do(Meditate, Pray, therapy) and keep it moving. BABY PLEASE!!

  10. christy

    Although it may have went to far, but karma is turely something that people take so lightly. For every person the EV cussed out, jumped on, or attempted to jump on it will come back to her. Really what happen to her is just a taste of the road she going down if she dont change her ways. Next time it could be a lot worst. She really needs to change her ways and Chad needs to grow up and settle down. he aint getting younger he’s getting older and he’s career is now going to wait around for him to get it together. There are a lot of younger man waiting for a chancce in the NFL. They both stupid i say……

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