Oh boy. I really thought that post on attachment parenting and pop culture was gonna put an end to all conversations about breastfeeding and motherhood and children; so much for having the final say, lol. And truthfully, this may not really be a breastfeeding issue. Lauren Ferrari is a mother of two and she shared what I think is a kind of private picture on Facebook. For some reason, she wanted everyone to see her younger daughter ‘play breastfeeding’ from her older daughter. But Facebook didn’t think it was cute (nor did many others) at all and they temporarily banned her. Check out the video to see what Lauren, and others have to say on the matter.
Now here’s the thing. Let’s put to the side for a moment the question of whether or not she should have shared that pic (and whether or not they were right to ban her); I’m wondering if we amplify the issue or contribute to the ‘bad’ in it by covering the story. As I was writing this, I read a few comments from people on the HuffPost who were like, well now YOU (the HuffPost) are sharing this and participating in the spreading of this picture, even though the girls’ faces are “edited” out. When I read that, I wondered if I should even be sharing this with you guys. I’m still not sure I’m doing the right thing (to be honest), but I also felt like if I don’t cover this piece of news (and, yeah, it’s news to me) then I’m somehow acknowledging that the photo is inappropriate or obscene.
Which brings us back to the main question: is this photo worth the Facebook ban it received? Personally (personally) I would not have done it. My absolute FAVORITE pictures of my boys are the ones where they’ve just gotten out of the bath and– yup– they’re running around in their birthday suits. Are those the pics I share on Facebook? Hell-to-the-no. I know Lauren‘s girls are not nude, but I’m saying this to say I know how it is to take a pic you think is THE cutest and you’re dying to share it with the world. But you don’t. For a lot of reasons, you just don’t. Or at least, I don’t.
In fact, I ALMOST didn’t post this pic on Facebook. The love of my life showed me this photo he took of our baby in a very random pose and he was like, it looks like one of your old faux modeling pics (because, yeah, my college friend and I used to have Facebook photo shoots– judge me if you will). He then went on his iPhone and e-mailed me this:
Because I was in the picture, I thought it looked a little less weird. Because I also try not to post pics of them in their diapers (I totally used to when big brother Jonovan was first born, but I’ve since stopped). I don’t have a concrete reason for these decisions; I do what I’m comfortable doing and respect that we all have varying levels of comfortability. And this picture was too funny not to share with the world.
And my 3-year old has totally ‘nursed’ a stuffed animal or two, and yeah, he used to ask me if he could “feed” his baby brother and then he’d bust out his little chest and I’d LMAO, and just save that image for myself. And now, for ya’ll apparently. But you don’t get pics. Because that’s just cray.
Ok, I’ve judged this woman enough. Although truthfully, I really think her intentions were somewhat innocent. What’s really interesting about all this is the fact that social media has made us desperate to share a helluva lot of information; even to a fault. And I lurve me some social media.
But aren’t there still some things that we can just keep to ourselves?