John Mayer Whines, ‘Taylor Swift Humiliated Me’


Um, did you know that Taylor Swift and John Mayer enjoyed a bit of a romantic tryst a couple of years ago? Yeah, me neither … BUT, because Taylor has made a career out of penning songs about her failed relationships, we now know that Taylor and John hooked up (or whatever) before her 2010 album Speak Now was released. Now, you might think that it was Taylor that started blabbing about the failed romance but you’d be wrong … it was actually John who brought this affair into the public eye. You see, John is really upset — humiliated, even — by a song that Taylor wrote about the couple’s failed dalliance. Click below to read what he has to say whine.

John Mayer says that he was “really humiliated” by Taylor Swift’s song “Dear John,” which the country-pop star allegedly wrote about him. “It made me feel terrible,” Mayer says in the new issue of Rolling Stone, on newsstands Friday. “Because I didn’t deserve it. I’m pretty good at taking accountability now, and I never did anything to deserve that. It was a really lousy thing for her to do.” Swift’s song, which appeared on her best-selling 2010 album Speak Now, was released shortly after Mayer went on a two-year hiatus following his controversial interviews with Rolling Stone and Playboy. “Dear John, I see it all, now it was wrong / Don’t you think 19 is too young to be played by your dark twisted games, when I loved you so?” Swift sings on the tune, a staple of her live set. Swift and Mayer were romantically linked before the song’s release, and in an interview conducted shortly after, the singer indicated that the song’s subject would be apparent. “There are things that were little nuances of the relationship, little hints,” said Swift. “Everyone will know, so I don’t really have to send out emails on this one.” Mayer now tells Rolling Stone that he learned about Swift’s feelings directly from her song. “I never got an e-mail. I never got a phone call,” he says. “I was really caught off-guard, and it really humiliated me at a time when I’d already been dressed down. I mean, how would you feel if, at the lowest you’ve ever been, someone kicked you even lower?” When asked about the song’s line, “Don’t you think I was too young to be messed with?” Mayer says, “I don’t want to go into that.” Mayer also takes issue with “Dear John” as a musician. “I will say as a songwriter that I think it’s kind of cheap songwriting,” he says. “I know she’s the biggest thing in the world, and I’m not trying to sink anybody’s ship, but I think it’s abusing your talent to rub your hands together and go, ‘Wait till he gets a load of this!’ That’s bullshit.”

LOL. I’m sorry but this is damn funny. I guess because the name John is such a common name, no one had any way of knowing that Taylor’s song Dear John was about John Mayer … so if it weren’t for Mayer’s comments, we might’ve never learned that he was the subject of the song. Let’s be real, John Mayer also writes songs about the women he dates (Your Body is a Wonderland is about Jennifer Love Hewitt, I believe) so for him to call Taylor’s confessional songwriting “bullshit” is kinda hypocritical. He’s just angry that he did her wrong (at least, in her eyes) and she retaliated by writing a song about the relationship. All’s fair in love and war … and if any man is willing to date Taylor Swift then he has to understand that the relationship has the high probability of being immortalized in song — either good or bad. John Mayer has far too many times caused grief and strife to the women he’s dated (just ask Jennifer Aniston), so I don’t see anything wrong with a little karmic retribution.

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  • mabel

    2010….it’s 2012 now. get over it!!

  • Janaegal

    Well, I remember knowing it was him when the song first was talked about, but yeah, he’s the one bringing it up.

    Can’t wait for the Dear Jake song!

    • @Janaegal — “Can’t wait for the Dear Jake song!” OMG, me tooooo!!!

  • CoCo

    #1, I’d still do John Mayer, even though he’s a complete scum bag. He’s hot. You’d just want to double bag it. He’s probably dirty. HA ha! Obviously, don’t date him.
    #2, Someone needs to tell Taylor if she writes songs about all the men she ever dates, she’s going to stop getting dates. Nobody wants to be the subject of her scorn and 2 million tweens angst. At LEAST change the names!

    • Darcy

      I bed to differ – he looks HORRIBLE in that picture Trent posted. He does Johnny Depp really poorly.

    • Suzie Z

      Umm John Mayer USED to be hot. He’s not hot anymore. And @Darcy – he looks like Johnny Depp on a REALLY BAD day now. Awful!

  • Jamie

    Your Body is a Wonderland was written (and released) before the two ever dated. But yes, John probably does deserve more than a little bit of karmic retribution.

  • Jamie

    Your Body is a Wonderland was written (and released) before the two ever dated. But yes, John probably does deserve more than a little bit of karmic retribution.

  • Adriana

    I couldn’t agree more with you Trent, It’s so funny to me that he’s trying to take the high road now as though he were an upstanding person to be involved with. While I do love me some John, he should become familiar with the consequences of playing around with people. Karma is a B. Just sayin’.

  • KLC

    Trent – SHE mentioned him first. I feel that it’s cool to write about the situations you go through with relationships, but don’t name names. He hasn’t done that. SHE ALWAYS does that.

    I don’t think that it was a relationship, but a little thing. Ya know? And because she’s stuck in fairytale world, she confused a “thing” with a “THING!!!”

    Not excusing his womanizing ways, but at 19, you should know that if you lay with dogs; you’re bound to get fleas. Unless you use K9 Advantix or the like.

    • @KLC — “if you lay with dogs; you’re bound to get fleas. Unless you use K9 Advantix or the like.” LOL!!

    • Ella

      Nobody knows anything at 19! Hell, nobody knows anything until their late twenties-maybe. That age when you’re “finally an adult” is like an apprentice adulthood where you learn all the tough lessons no one bothered to teach you about in high school.
      Taylor Swift is a baby who gets inspiration from making questionable dating decisions. “Yeah, this may not work out or be the brightest idea, but it’s gonna make a great song!”

      I feel like her “search for love” and all her “heartbreaks” are part of her persona. I have said it a million times, but I simply do not understand why everyone has such a hard-on for this chick. But I don’t understand a lot of what’s popular these days, especially when it comes to music.

      John on the other hand should know better, stop talking always, and also get over himself.

    • Lynne

      Both, he and she are notorious for opening their big mouths about previous relationships. They’re both overrated.

      Miss Taylor Swift should take notes from Alanis Morrisette.

  • Suzie Z

    Here’s the thing… dudes know she writes about her ex’s when they break up with her. If they do shady sh*t and wind up in a song, that’s on them. And, she probably should cool it with that stuff…it was cute the first few times, now it’s just seeming bitter. Don’t date a dude you know is a player thinking you’re gonna be “the one” – you’re just askin for song material then. ;)

  • Shannon

    I love John Mayer and not a fan of Taylor swift or her stink face. She constantly looks like she smells something funny. It was def confirmed that song was about him. He probably would have said a lot worse about her if he didn’t wait 2 years to cool down.

    • Annie

      Haha! I’ve been trying to think of an explanation for her face. You nailed it!

  • Colleen

    Is this guy fer reals? I mean, I love his music and all but really??? HE is the one saying how not okay it is to blast about your relationship in public?!? Oh my gah. This guy can be a total tool sometimes.

  • mela

    I knew he had a reason for dipping so low as to have her voice on one of his songs on Battle Studies. She’s a cheap songwriter in my opinion.

    • Joe

      But do you think she is talented like John does?

  • Nikki

    Touche Trent!

  • Michelle

    Hi Trent,
    Hope all is well with you and David! As far as John, I can only quote the great Oscar Wilde — The only thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about at all and They can say anything about me as long as it’s not true. :)

  • KiTX

    As a fan of both of them, I have to say that although I agree with John (I remember hearing the song for the first time and thinking, “cheap shot, Swifty”), what happened to his new attitude of “I talked too much, I was defending myself but making it worse, now I’ve grown up some” that he blasted on “Ellen” something like TWO WEEKS AGO? JMay- come on, dude. Come on.

  • Lisa Lisa

    He’s upset that she publicly talked about/wrote a song about their “relationship”? That’s silly. Remember the sexual napalm comment? Or any number of things he said about Jen Aniston? Bleh, he’s so skeezy.

  • Laura

    Karma is a bitch …. He deserved

  • Krissy

    I completely disagree that it was John Mayer that brought their relationship into the public sphere. Here is an article in the NY Times from 2010 reviewing Speak Now, and they say that the song is about John Mayer. She also said that everyone would know who the song was about, so she wouldn’t have to drop any hints. John overall is a douche, but Taylor is the one who did the kiss-and-tell.

  • Sandy

    He’s such a douchebag, but I’d still do him lol

  • Ben@pr

    Take that douchebag!!! Celebrities are just like us. There will be always someone that will f**k up really bad the players and douchebags. Usually that person is the least expected to do so. Who would have think that the always sweet ingenue Taylor Swift would put John effing Mayer in his place?!

  • tiffany

    He should get over it, he’s a song writer and knows they draw from life experience. Knew from the get go she writes about her love life on every record she has. Besides John is very common name she could just be using it.Don’t be like the Carly Simmon song John!

  • ChristineLA

    This is utterly hilarious! So, if she had been complimentary, it would have been fine, kind of like saying Jessica Simpson is “sexual napalm” was nothing HE needed to apologize for. Karma, dude, suck it up. If you weren’t such a complete and utter douche, someone might care.

  • JCZ

    I just think Taylor needs to keep it in HER pants. I don’t hate her or anything, I think she is quite talented for such a young musician (I won’t talk about overrated or anything though) – but she really has a list of ex-boyfriends that’s longer than a Game of Thrones book.

    • Cybelle

      Really? She has a long list of ex-boyfriends? Gosh you must be pretty close with her to know so much about her!

  • Jen

    I’m just not sure why he’s talking about it now. I heard it was about him quite a while ago (before the album came out). Remember her TV ads for the album? She said “I’m naming names!”

    • Ella

      Might have something to do with his new album, although why he thinks bringing up another artist and acting like a whiney douche is going to help sell records.

    • ChristineLA

      Yep, this reeks of “I have something to sell” to me.

  • Alys

    Dear John,
    Pot calling the kettle black? Suck up what you do to all the other ladies.


    Dear Taylor,
    Get some new material already.

  • Kelly

    It was known to be about John Mayer, there were rumors about them and If you are ever curious as to who her songs are about if you google it people crack them. Also if you buy her cd’s it’s “coded” in the packaging. People have way too much time on their hands! ;)

  • Kelly

    ps. About the “keep it in your pants” comment… I personally don’t see T as the kind of girl that sleeps around.

    • Agreed. People are so quick to assume.

  • rovheel

    wow I thought Dear John was for Jake G.

    anyway I wonder if his song A Fool To Love You from his new album a “reply” to Ms. Taylor :)

    • Kiki

      YES! I thought the exact same thing when I heard the song. And if it is then he needs to take a long look in the mirror.

  • Maybe he just wanted the attention…

  • mc_swifty

    I can completely understand why John would be upset. If someone wrote a song about stuff i did wrong in a relationship, I would be mad as hell. Personally I think he took a cheap shot by calling her songwriting cheap.

  • Ash Ash

    This song has been out for some time, so its shocking that he is saying something now. Dear John can have a couple of meanings including his name. Often times a break up letter was called a dear john letter. Let’s also not forget that Taylor has been writing songs since an early age, so she has a lot of songs that sometimes she revamps and releases. Songs can be about all kinds of experiences, even through someones else’s relationships. I think T-Swift has some serious talent when it comes to singing and songwriting.

  • Cybelle

    I think it’s perfectly fine to write a song about someone who “wronged” you. I don’t see anything wrong with it! It’s your art forgadsake you have the right to write the things you feel. It’s not “cheap” songwriting, I think it was pretty clever actually to name a song Dear John a la dear john letter but have the real name of the guy to be John. Besides, everyone knows if you date Taylor Swift she’s gonna write a song about you. She said that so herself. John Mayer’s just an attention-seeking douchebag.

  • MM

    I personally can’t stand Taylor Swift – don’t understand the appeal at all. I hate her whole rescue-me-I’m-a-fairytale-princess schtick and think she sets a horrible example for young girls out there.

    I’m not much of a John Mayer fan either but I think the way she handles these songs about her ex-relationships is tacky and immature and all about attention.

    Sure it’s fine to use your history in your art but when you call out someone that personally, you are totally trying to give them a public middle finger for revenge and I just find that passive aggressive. There are always two sides to a break up after all so better to keep things private and just say whatever you need to the person’s face.

    I still say Cry Me a River is a huge reason the public fell out of favor with Britney for a while – which hugely affected her career – so the damage from this kind of thing can be very real. For that reason, I don’t blame John Mayer for being annoyed.

  • Annie

    It’s coming up now because he hasn’t done interviews in 2 years and this was the question he was asked. I’m sure he didn’t bring it up. Taylor needs to chill on the ex-boyfriend/fling/hook-up/crush who didn’t want her back bashing. Soon no one will date her because they don’t want an awful song written about them. Ugh, she’s so immature.

  • Lauren

    I’m a big fan of both of them but I don’t know… Taylor isn’t exactly innocent here. Also, wasn’t the meaning behind the song discussed at length before her CD came out years ago?

  • Tricia

    Awww poor poor John. Did da wittle girl write a mean song about you and hurt your feelings? Singers write songs about their exes (Um… Adele, Pink, Alanis, Carly Simon, Britney, Justin, Rihanna, Kelly, … the list goes on..) If you don’t want a singer to write about you – don’t date one! Especially a 19-year-old who always writes about teenage heartache and bad breakups. And if you don’t want to be humiliated, don’t talk about it! (Oh, wait, you have a new album to sell? Well then… carry on! What else did da mean wittle girl do to you?)

  • Jen

    you dated a teenager, what did you expect? taylor is an annoying, whiney little girl that has the songwriting talent (and looks) of a chipmunk.

  • Jodie

    You’re wayyyy behind…this story resembles beating a dead horse.
    Old news pink…

    • @Jodie — And oldie and still a goodie, it seems.

  • Meagan

    I agree with the whole karmic retribution thing. I can’t believe he is whining about being kicked down even further when he was at his lowest. Has he forgotten the fact that he was completely sexist and racist in an interview in which he was drunk and this is how his lowest low started? I have zero sympathy for this guy. Dear John is a fantastic Taylor Swift song, one of my favourites. Every songwriter writes about their own experiences, it’s not like she’s the first one to ever do this. Talking about past relationships openly is also something that every young girl does…she just has more of a platform than normal girls do. She is doing nothing out of the ordinary as far as I’m concerned.