Rufus Wainwright Wants To Get Hitched

"I wasn't a huge gay marriage supporter before I met Jorn"

Musician Rufus Wainwright, a gay man who was previously against the notion of legalizing same-sex marriage, has changed his tune now that he finds himself in a predicament where he now wishes he could marry his foreign-born partner. Rufus has been in a relationship with German arts administrator Jörn WeisBrodt, who he describes as the “light of [his] life”, for about 5 years and now wishes the couple could marry … so now he’s speaking out about his new-found support for the legalization of same-sex marriage:

Rufus Wainwright is supporting the fight to legalize same-sex unions in the U.S. because he’d love to marry his longterm partner Jorn WeisBrodt. The singer has credited German theater producer Jorn with inspiring him to speak out for gay rights, insisting he never wanted to settle down before meeting his partner. But Wainwright is frustrated by laws that keep the couple from sealing their union. He says, “I have been with Jorn for five years and he’s the light of my life. He’s my inspiration, support and he’s good in the sack, too! But I am very aware of living in the U.S., of the conundrum that you can’t marry your gay partner and give him citizenship. He has to apply for a green card and he may or may not get accepted, which is annoying when you’re in a committed relationship. If we were straight, we could get married and he’d get his American passport and it would make a lot of sense. I wasn’t a huge gay marriage supporter before I met Jorn because I love the whole old-school promiscuous Oscar Wilde freak show of what ‘being gay’ once was. But since meeting Jorn that all changed.”

First and foremost, I am thrilled that Rufus has finally seen the light (of his life) and is now on board with the push to legalize same-sex marriage in this country. While I’m a bit disappointed that Rufus didn’t decide to lend his support to marriage equality until he felt the need to marry, I am very pleased that he is now actively speaking out on the issue. I am 100% utterly convinced that same-sex marriage will be legal in the US and I hope to see it become a reality in my lifetime. The more people speak out (whether they fully identify or not) on the issue, the better chance we have to make it become a reality. I’m actually very happy that Rufus found someone to make an honest man out of him. I wish him and Jörn all the happiness in the world … and hopefully a happy wedding day soon.

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  1. uhmno

    What a self-serving prick! Oh, now that the issue affects me I want to do something about it!! Okay, well, straight people have no reason to help gay people fight against anti-gay legislation because it doesn’t affect them too, right?

  2. schmee

    He’s Canadian, he’s been able to get married since July 20th 2005 (and even before that in certain provences). If it was just about getting married, a resident on Montreal would have gotten married already in Montreal.

    I wish I thought it was an honest political conversion, but this seems more like getting his partner a greencard than it does about getting married. (Not that he shouldnt be able to do that just the same as all the straight people)

  3. Marie

    uhmono said, “What a self-serving prick! Oh, now that the issue affects me I want to do something about it!! ”

    Um…it’s called evolving. Most people base their opinions on real-life experiences. Would you rather he stuck by his initial opinion of gay marriage just for consistancy sake?

  4. uhmno

    Did you miss the point of my comment? If people sat around only helping themselves, one could argue that, in theory, African Americans would have no rights, women would still be regarded as property, and the Jews would still be in concentration camps. It’s wonderful that he wants to get married, but it’s shitty that he wasted his platform and visibility while anti-gay legislation was being voted upon.

  5. Susie

    @uhmno: I completely agree with you. Sadly, Marie, Rufus Wainwright is a wonderful musician and songwriter but I lose whatever respect I have for him as a performer when I hear him in interviews.

    He’s been quoted several times in media interviews saying things that are so self-serving and downright un-evolved about the current GLBT community in North America. He even insults me a bit as a Canadian by turning his back on us when he says the fight is only in the U.S. for equal marriage rights.

    I may be straight and from Toronto, but I fully supported the move in Ontario to grant same-sex marriage rights in this province and we still have A LOT of work to do in the rest of Canada in rural areas where there are still hate crimes and bashing committed against gay Canadians. With a Conservative federal government and in places in rural Canada people still actively discriminate here and we could do with some support here from someone with a platform like Rufus’ to speak out even more. Ok, sorry /end of rant.

    And unless something has changed, Rufus W. is a Canadian citizen and last I checked you can’t sponsor someone to get a green card unless you’re US-born.

  6. @uhmno: I completely agree with you. Sadly, Marie, Rufus Wainwright is a wonderful musician and songwriter but I lose whatever respect I have for him as a performer when I hear him in interviews.

    He’s been quoted several times in media interviews saying things that are so self-serving and downright un-evolved about the current GLBT community in North America. He even insults me a bit as a Canadian by turning his back on us when he says the fight is only in the U.S. for equal marriage rights.

    I may be straight and from Toronto, but I fully supported the move in Ontario to grant same-sex marriage rights in this province and we still have A LOT of work to do in the rest of Canada in rural areas where there are still hate crimes and bashing committed against gay Canadians. With a Conservative federal government and in places in rural Canada people still actively discriminate here and we could do with some support here from someone with a platform like Rufus’ to speak out even more. Ok, sorry /end of rant.

    And unless something has changed, Rufus W. is a Canadian citizen and last I checked you can’t sponsor someone to get a green card unless you’re US-born.
    BTW I love your blog!

  7. Sarah

    @susie, he was actually born in the US, so is a US citizen. I believe he is a dual citizen, as his mother was Canadian.

  8. Rufus is stressing himself out something that is an EASY process.The provence of Montreal, for gays,is like the U.S. when it comes to hetrosexual marriage. In that if a foreign born marries an American, they can apply for citizenship and become a U.S. citizen. Like me, all he has to do is marry his partner in Canada (Montreal) his partner will get Canadian Citizenship. Canadians are free to travel and live in the U.S.
    This is the next best option until we have legal marriage for GLTB communities.

  9. BTW, Rufus has dual American and Canadian citizenship. Born in America and raised in Montreal. His mother is canadian. So he has all the benefits of legal gay marriage in Montreal.

  10. Susie

    Ah, sorry! My bad – a quick Wikipedia fact check would’ve cleared that up. Why did my post go up twice?

  11. Kristin

    I know that I will be showing my ignorance here, but why would a gay man not want same-sex marriage to be legal? I don’t really understand.

  12. Pat C

    Kristin, Rufus never said that he was against same-sex marriage, just that, at that time when asked, he did not want to get married personally. He was wifully misrepresented by some commentators for their own ends. He has now changed his mind and does want to marry. In fact he has always spoken passionately about his support for same sex marriage at his shows over the past year or so – I know, I was there for most of them!

  13. Holla

    Actually, Canadian citizens are not “free to live in the US” which means that getting married in Canada will not solve all of his problems. Even is his husband became a Canadian citizen, he would still need to get a work visa, which requires a specific job offer, and only certain jobs qualify. It is not as easy as people make it out to be.

  14. irisgirl

    I am a huge Rufus fan, and wish him, and hopefully his husband, every happiness. I don’t supposed they want to relocate to Iowa? (I think they’d love Iowa City)

  15. Straight Girl

    Sorry to take this important conversation in a jeuvenile direction, but I’m SO in love with Rufus, I wish he’d marry me! And it would be legal everywhere since I’m a woman!

    But in all seriousness, I think government should either allow all consenting adult couples the right to marry or get out of the way altogether, and let marriage be nothing more than a private, social covenant. As long as it has legal implications, there’s NO morally defensible argument that it should be “between a man and a woman” but not between two people of the same sex. We can’t just sit back and decide we don’t have to take a position on a fundamental issue like this.

    Maybe Rufus thought it was too “political” an issue for him in the past. I won’t judge him for that. But I’m glad he’s come to a realization (for whatever reason) that this is important.

  16. Straight Girl

    Susie,

    I don’t know what source it was that you “last checked” but it was NEVER required that you had to be “US-born” to sponsor someone. You just have to be a US citizen. That includes naturalized citizens (i.e. people born elsewhere who became US citizens).

    Also, some of you seem to be asserting that he is a dual citizen simply because his mother is Canadian. It doesn’t work like that. Dual citizenship is usually not automatic. Certain factors may _qualify_ you for it but there are typically a lot of legal steps you have to take to give it effect. Some countries don’t even allow it. Maybe you have direct information that he DOES have dual ciitizenship; if you do, that’s great, I have no argument with you — but you can’t just _deduce_ it from the fact that his mother is Canadian. Also, just because someone was born in the US doesn’t necessarily mean he/she is a US citizen. They might have changed their citizenship at some point.

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