Candy Spelling, that lovable matriarch that seemingly puts Joan Crawford to shame as Mommie Dearest, has penned another open letter (or Letter of Truth, if you will) to her only daughter Tori Spelling and sent it off to TMZ so that it can be read by the entire world wide web. As you may recall, Candy reached out to Tori with an open letter earlier this year in the hopes that mother and daughter could bury the hatchet and end their feud … an offer that Tori brutally (and publicly) rebuffed. In retaliation, Candy gave a very public interview that blamed Tori for her father Aaron Spelling‘s death (which, IMHO, is the lowest of the low). It seems that Candy was inspired to pen another letter after learning that Tori‘s reality TV series Tori & Dean: Home, Sweet, Hollywood will feature a season finale that attempts to show the world how daughter reached out to mother to attend granddaughter’s first birthday and, after initially agreeing to attend, grandmother eventually refused (you may recall, the party took place last month and we learned then that Candy refused to attend, presumably because she didn’t want to appear on the TV show). Before that episode airs on Tuesday, Candy felt it necessary to make the preemptive strike. Here is the full text of Candy‘s latest open letter to Tori:
TO: MIDDLE-AGED REALITY SHOW STARS (LIKE MY DAUGHTER)
FROM: CANDY SPELLING
I Know many middle-aged people have issues about their parents and their upbringing. I did. My memories didn’t match all those of my mother, and, funny thing, it’s the same way with my daughter.
Life has consequences. What you say is on the record. Other people have feelings.
I have a vested interest in this subject. My daughter, Tori’s, two-part season finale revolves around my granddaughter’s first birthday party and how she has made what seems like an agonizing decision to invite me.
Cue music. Cue sideways glaces. Clue Lights.
I did get an invitation just in time for the RSVP deadline. I’m sure its delivery will be on next week’s episode with some comment about my house or driveway or street or something they won’t like. I wonder if that will be spread out over one part or two. Sigh.
A big party wasn’t how I envisioned meeting my granddaughter for the first time; but, hey, this is Hollywood, and my grandchildren have become reality show props, too. At the time I emailed “yes,” I didn’t realize I was being set up for a two-parter, even though it was clear I was being invited to be part of a segment for my daughter’s reality show.
Spoiler alert. Don’t read this if you plan to sit through an hour of people looking at their watches and saying “she’s late.” I decided my first meeting with my granddaughter should be on home video, not primetime cable; so I emailed that i would not be attending.
Back to other reality stars. My husband taught me that the plots have to be fresh and updated. The same old whining gets tired after a while. Enough complaining about what may or may not have happened during first grade or YMCA camp, or what vegetable you were forced to endure, especially when you are privileged enough to be on TV and get paid for it.
For all the reality show personalities, please remember that real life doesn’t get edited to make things better or worse or get better ratings. You’re responsible for what you do. Life isn’t just a show. And your families can’t just be props. Make your own season finale without creating conflicts you will regret later.
Um … Cue music. Cue sideways glaces. Clue Lights. Candy Spelling is a heinous beyotch. Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s idiotic for Tori Spelling to try and still exploit her public feud with her mother in order to get higher ratings for her TV show (because, honestly, that’s exactly that she’s doing) but for a mother to continue to publicly abuse her child (both mentally and emotionally) that has to be the most disgusting thing ever. Clearly Tori is trying to embarrass her mother by showing how cold-hearted she is (by not attending her only granddaughter’s first birthday) but Candy is going out of the way to show EXACTLY what a cold-hearted beyotch she really is by not only attending but making such a public spectacle of the whole situation. This has to be the saddest thing ever. Some fault does lie with Tori Spelling but, in the end, Candy Spelling — in her old, wizened age — should be the grown-up here. After all, Tori is the product of Candy‘s parenting … a job that Candy clearly was never, ever qualified for. At least poor Aaron Spelling isn’t alive to bear witness to these sad and seemingly on-going events.
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What Dave said!
I watch tori’s show and I believe that she feels the only way to talk to her mom is thru the show. evidently candy does not visit them or call and i think she still harbors bad feelings. me and my mom always fought. sometimes i wouldn’t go there for days. i was daaddy’s little girl and mom was jealous of that. This is normal, its in psychology books. but in the end, mom always had my back and i had hers. before my mom died,she moved in with me. I believe the press blows it up cause it makes good copy. candy of all people should realize this. if she wants to see her grandchildren and tori, why doesn’t she just pop up. my mom didn’t call or need an invitation to go to her kid’s homes or see her grandkids. I think tori would invite candy in if she showed up.
That is the purest definition of PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE I have ever seen. Why would you write an open letter to your daughter regarding anything, in lieu of actually writing a letter to her? Because now if Tori doesn’t respond, Candy is making it look like she made the first move and Tori isn’t having it. And Candy thinks that will look bad on Tori and it isn’t Candy’s fault, because, hey, she tried, right?
“MIDDLE AGED REALITY SHOW STARS (LIKE MY DAUGHTER)” … OMG. If Candy was my mother, she’d be officially – DEAD to me after that!! … Candy clearly does not want Tori to do well … financially or otherwise. It’s so sabotaging! I now wonder what Tori went through in that big house? (while the public were jealous and hating her for her rich ‘perfect’ life).
You just know in twenty years time, this will probably be repeated again with Tori and her own kids!
Personally, in today’s terms, middle age should fall somewhere around 80… but anyway… mother/daughter feuds are the worse. And very generational. Let’s hope Tori doesn’t let this happen between herself and her lil’ adorable ones.
What a rotten excuse for a mother. How about just telling your daughter that you’ll see her before or after the party because you don’t want to be on tv. She LOVES this negative attention and it’s clear.
I TRULY FEEL SORRY FOR YOU CANDY. YOUR DAUGHTER IS DRAGGING YOUR FAMILIES NAME THROUGH THE MUD. I DO NOT BLAME YOU FOR FEELING FRUSTRATED. SOMETIMES WE SAY THINGS WE DONT MEAN. IN YOUR CASE YOU ARE JUST PROTECTING YOUR FAMILY. YOUR DAUGHER MARRIED A GOOFY INSECURE MAN WHO IS JUST USING YOUR DAUGHTER FOR FAME. THAT IS EXTREMLY OBVIOUS AS HE HAS NO REAL TALENT OF HIS OWN . SEEMS TO NEED TORIS FAME TO MAKE ANY MONEY-SAD!!!! YOU HAVE BEEN UNFAIRLY BASHED AND IT IS A DISGRACE. WHAT EVER HAPPENDED TO HONOR THY FATHER AND MOTHER. YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW.
Trent
You are so right! I think that all of this is Candy’s fault. Maybe Tori shouldn’t have the kids on a reality TV show but would they be there if Tori wasn’t excluded from all of Aaron’s money? Tori may not have needed a reality show if she inherited any money and from what I read it was Candy who hasn’t given her any
I read Tori’s books and recently read Candy’s book as well. I am torn between which side I am on. I can see it from both points of view. I mean, I am sure Candy had a few issues as a mother, but YOU ARE 35. GET OVER IT. You are a grown woman. GET. OVER. IT. I am sorry, but you weren’t beaten, you weren’t sexually abused, you weren’t chained up in your basement. Your mother told you to get a nose job and FORCED you to get a BMW when you really wanted a VW. Awww, poor thing. Sorry I can’t see what I’m writing through the tears in my eyes. There is a certain point in your life when you can’t blame your childhood anymore. This is it. You want to cut your mother off? Go ahead. Do it. Stop wah-wah-ing every week about her. I am sure Candy made mistakes – who hasn’t – but to use her as a storyline is gross. I don’t blame her for coming out and trying to defend herself. She was given no choice. Hmm, I guess I’m on Candy’s side.
And to Michelle – what Tori negelcts to tell you is that her and her brother both have trust funds. And why should she be entitled to get ANY money? She got 800k – and is complaining? Some people will never see that in their lifetimes. Because her father made all that money she is entitled to it? Sounds like a spoiled brat to me.