Rihanna & Chris Brown Are Together Again
People magazine is reporting that Rihanna, who made her way to Mexico this week to recuperate from the injuries she received allegedly at the hands of her boyfriend Chris Brown in the early morning hours of February 8, has reunited with Chris Brown in an attempt to reconcile. The magazine reports that ChRihanna are staying together at one of P. Diddy’s homes in Miami, FL. Having read the reports and seen the photo of Rihanna’s battered face, I am stunned by this development:
Rihanna and Chris Brown are back together, PEOPLE has learned exclusively. The pair have reunited almost three weeks after Brown, 19, allegedly battered the “Umbrella” singer on Feb. 8, a source tells PEOPLE. “They’re together again. They care for each other,” says the source. The on-again couple are currently spending time together at one of Sean “Diddy” Combs’s homes, on Miami Beach’s Star Island. Adds the source: “While Chris is reflective and saddened about what happened, he is really happy to be with the woman he loves.” In its latest issue, PEOPLE reports that Brown called Rihanna on her 21st birthday one week ago. “He called to wish her happy birthday,” a source told the magazine. “They’ve reached out to each other. It’s been mutual.” Brown was booked by LAPD for making criminal threats but the case has not yet been presented to the District Attorney, who will ultimately determine which charges, if any, will be prosecuted.
I am UTTERLY and completely shocked at this news. I cannot, for the life of me, imagine being so quick to forgive anyone laying their hands on me in a combative or threatening manner. Then again, we have no idea what really happened between Rihanna and Chris Brown on the morning of February 8. While I am saddened by this news, I don’t know that I or anyone has any right to judge what we don’t know. I do know that Rihanna was assaulted because I’ve seen the photo … beyond that, I dunno … I just don’t even know what to say. I guess Chris Brown’s apology resonated with her … or something.
Rihanna’s father, Ronald Fenty, has already gone on the record to say that he supports his daughter’s decision to allow Chris Brown back in her life:
Rihanna’s father Ronald Fenty has spoken exclusively from his home in Barbados about his daughter’s decision to get back with Chris Brown. Rihanna and Brown are holed up together at Sean “Diddy” Combs’ mansion on Star Island near Miami. It comes just three weeks after Brown allegedly battered the singer the night before the Grammy Awards on Feb 8. Fenty says, “I love my daughter with whatever road she takes. I’m behind her win or lose. I will be supportive. If that’s the road she wants to choose, I’m behind her. I hope to see her soon. I talked to her after her birthday, and she told me she’s OK.”
On this, I do have something to say. There is no way I would casually support any loved one, especially my daughter, to put herself in harm’s way by letting an alleged attacker back into her life. I just cannot fathom how a father would be so willing to support this kind of decision. Mebbe I’m wrong but I really think that parents should more actively step in and try and guide their children when they appear to be making poor decisions. Mebbe my daughter would be pissed at me but at least I’d feel much more comfortable knowing that I was doing everything I could to try and keep her from getting hurt again. This whole thing is so … odd. I’m really at a loss.
What do y’all think? Are you just as dumbfounded as I am?
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February 28th, 2009 at 5:47 am
shocking they are back together that quickly,
would have expected at least a few months or something.
she will learn in time that she’s making a mistake.
February 28th, 2009 at 5:48 am
i lived in bermuda for over a year, and while bermuda and barbados are no where near each other, the island lifestyle and culture is very similar – native bermudians (black AND white) accept domestic violence as a part of everyday life – it is never reported, and people don’t seem to be affected when their neighbor or loved one is affected by it… it’s not right, but it is cultural so perhaps that’s why she’s met with him and her father is ok with it…
February 28th, 2009 at 5:49 am
Like you said Trent, nobody knows what really happened except Chris and Rihanna. I’m not defending Chris Brown, but we have no right to judge him. Did he beat Rihanna, yes. Did he apologize to Rihanna? probably but the public doesn’t know that. He doesn’t owe the public any apology. If Rihanna accepted his apology and if they decided to get back together, so be it. How long can we crucify Chris, the only thing he can do is apologize and move on. I will say this though, I don’t think getting back together will be the best for them, I think they should all learn from the experience and move on.
February 28th, 2009 at 5:52 am
My only guess would be that she has this:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Battered_person_syndrome
February 28th, 2009 at 5:56 am
Everybody can talk and judge till they drop down and although Chris did(?) beat Rihanna, her love for him might be stronger than that. It sounds foolish, but remember how it was to get over a heartbreak of somebody who might not even been good to you during the relationship. Still you were devistated when it was over.
We really don’t know what happend, and actually at this point, NOTHING can defend his actions.. but still.. we don’t know.
February 28th, 2009 at 5:58 am
All I can say is we don’t know what happened that night. I was shocked when I read this last night. Especially since the story was so public and on every news outlet. I believe the police knew RiRi wasn’t going to press charges and that’s why the photo was “leaked” and her family kept insisting everything was being blow out of porportion, something was amiss. Either way, I wasn’t a fan of cbreezy or RiRi but it’s there decision and there’s alone. They have to learn on their own. This situation is nothing knew in hollywood. It’s been going on for a long time.
February 28th, 2009 at 5:59 am
She is young and stupid and unfortunately will probably end up dead at the hands of Chris. If that’s the life she wants, so be it. Hope they never have kids.
February 28th, 2009 at 6:00 am
I’ve seen an abusive relationship close up. It happened to someone very close to me. She went back to her abuser more than one time. The abuser is good at making the other person feel at fault for the abuse. It is really sad and hurtful but it happens like that. Thankfully my friend finally got out of it and put her life back together. My prayers go out to Rihanna. It wouldn’t surprise me if something happened again.
February 28th, 2009 at 6:09 am
Wow, sad.
She may love him, but after he beat her up like he did (I saw the photo) I would hope love has it’s limits. I’m afraid her career will suffer for this.
February 28th, 2009 at 6:13 am
Its like the classic tale of a domestic violent household except (gaspshockhorror) they’re not even married yet. I really do not know what to make of Riri’s decision and i hope to jeebus that there’d better be a good explaination of the whole situation.
February 28th, 2009 at 6:14 am
If you’re shocked by this then you’re just plain naive. This wasn’t the first time, won’t be the last time, and it takes two. Sad but true They both need help.
February 28th, 2009 at 6:34 am
If you love somebody you learn to forgive–this is true—but someone who’d threaten to kill YOU? Shit if he did kill her ther’d be no way to forgive him She’d be dead.
lucky to be allive or in love?
February 28th, 2009 at 6:46 am
He’ll always be a woman beater in my eyes, and i’m not blinded by love to see that, unfortunately Rihanna will learn the hard way, i think its pretty twisted that she is back together with him, she must not have a lot of confidence in herself, this is just giving CB more control over her and eventually something else will happen, you don’t just all of a sudden beat someone up like that, it wasn’t just a slap in the face…
February 28th, 2009 at 6:53 am
Sadly, I am not shocked by the reconciliation. Most likely the added celeb pressure and guilt that she feels for getting him noticed for this and now being trashed by the public added pressure to her to cave. In a strange way, it is great that this is a story highlights how domestic abuse can happen to anyone including teenage celebs that seemingly have the ideal life. It serves as a warning. These patterns of relationship behavior start young and isn’t just for poor people with nothing better to do that beat up on each other. I hate that this happened at all, but it is part of our community reality. I hope they both get the help they need to continue to lead productive lives.
February 28th, 2009 at 6:57 am
She obviously really loves him, but this is stupid.. if this has all happened before and he threatened to kill her then the next time he just might kill her when he’s being like that again…
@Nora, yea shocking they’re back together so quickly, but i think its more shocking they’re back together AT ALL. O.o
February 28th, 2009 at 6:59 am
Trent you’re a little late with the news, this came out like two/three days ago
February 28th, 2009 at 7:04 am
Her Dad is right to support her. I hope he has told her that SHE is the thing he supports NOT this relationship. He can’t make her decisions for her and it would be wrong for him to force her to listen, in my opinion, because she needs him in the end. Her Dad needs to be in her life to remind her she deserves better and to be there when she finally calls and asked him to come and get her for good! It will happen! Just might not be tomorrow.
February 28th, 2009 at 7:04 am
Re: Rhianna’s father.
There is a difference between airing your dirty laundry in public and getting something off your chest in private.
We don’t know exactly what happened, but lets assume what we are all pretty much assuming — that Chis beat the hell out of her… not that he got angry and shoved her, but that he seriously and deliberately (perhaps in a rage) beat the crap out of her. In that case, yes, I would do *almost* anything to get him out of my daughter’s life… HOWEVER… I would not go so far as to jeopardize my own relationship with her. If this was an isolated incident in the context of a 1 year relationship I would do and say all I could to end her relationship with her bf, but I wouldn’t create a situation where she is going to say, “well, I’m staying with him so I guess it is YOU who is no longer in the picture.”
February 28th, 2009 at 7:09 am
Disgusting! All of you saying “None of us really know what happened….” are kidding yourselves! That woman was beat to a pulp. If she wants to be an idiot and go back to him, so be it. But for all of their collective fans, doesn’t this just say that domestic violence is OK? It’s heartbreaking, not just for the idiots involved but for the young women and men that are hearing about this and opting to stay in abusive relationships. Domestic abuse just seems so 1980’s. I know it still happens (obvs) but it just doesn’t strike me as a very “modern woman” situation to get yourself into.
Trent, you will be a great dad someday!
February 28th, 2009 at 7:16 am
What a shame! This is not the message you send out to millions of females around the world. I don’t think there is a single worse thing that a female role model can do.
February 28th, 2009 at 7:23 am
i suppose she probably thinks she can change him. it’s common in abusive relationships where the women always think they can change him only to find out the hard way. it’s sad but it happens.
but i think it’s great that her father supports her because imagine if he were to very openly and publicly announce that he is against her decision, she may be afraid to turn to him for support if things go wrong in the future.
having said that, i think you make a great dad too Trent!
February 28th, 2009 at 7:26 am
T obe honest I think there is a lot more to the story then what we the public think. It seems there are a lot of celebrities that are standing behind Chris who actually get to talk to him and probably know more than what we do as well.
We still have had no full details from either of them so I don’t know.
February 28th, 2009 at 7:31 am
I knew it wasn’t the first time he beat her (it couldn’t have been!) but I really thought this time, with all the media attention, she would have kept away.. but of course that’s not what happens in an abusive relationship.
I just hope somebody around her finally gets her to realize how wrong the situation is.. before something like this can happen again.
February 28th, 2009 at 7:31 am
For some reason I knew she would get back with him, but I was hoping anyway that she wouldn’t. One thing is to forgive the person, another thing is to put youself back in the same spot you were in. Having said that, I have officially lost respect for the two of them. I may not know exactly what happened that night, but based on what I do know, that’s enough for me. The whole “he’ll change” and “he won’t do it again” mentality of a battered woman always baffles me. In any case, it’s her life and hopefully she doesn’t have to learn her lesson the hard way. I really do wish her the best.
February 28th, 2009 at 7:31 am
I agree, I think her parents should step in more. She’s 21 and can make her own decisions but I think if you see someone you love clearly heading down the wrong path you have a responsibility to say something, ESPECIALLY if that person is your child. I think even if he didn’t beat her, which it looks like he did, obviously because of him she was in this sort of situation so he is not the right person for her to be with.
February 28th, 2009 at 7:40 am
Okay,for starters,as much as I absolutely love Rihanna,I think she’s being a bit silly about this. I mean,the guy that “loves” her beat her up and she’s suddenly taking him back,what the?! But,then again,I don’t know what happened that night,so maybe it was all just a misunderstanding,maybe Chris hit her once (still NOT okay) and then Rihanna fell down the stairs or something, but then again,maybe she didn’t.
It’s completely 100% Rihanna’s decision what to do with her life,I just hope she’s smart with the relationship and doesn’t let anything like that ever happen again.But I’m just gonna butt out of her life,excluding what I’ve already typed.
I agree with our pink-is-the-new-blogger though,her own father is totally okay with this? I for one am at a loss.The word ‘huh’ is being repeated.
He said he’s just accepting her decisions,which is what a good father should do,but a great father would be doing whatever possible to keep his daughter safe,even if it means she becomes incredibly pissed off at him,but at least she’d be okay,and she’d eventually get over her little tantrum and realise that he’s only doing what he thinks is best for her.
But,I am yet again coming up with a different conclusion.
What if her father doing what he thinks is best for her just pushes his daughter further and further away? What if she suddenly starts to think that her family’s not behind her? She’d probably run into her boyfriend’s arms. So maybe he is protecting her by staying close to her and then if it unfortunately happens again,this time,instead of forgiving her boyfriend after a few weeks,she’d run to her family who would then convince her to move on.
Hmmmm……I think these decisions are better left up to the actual person who knows ALL the facts,not just an outsider like me.
Anyway,I’ve been speaking my mind for long enough now.
Love your site.
xx
February 28th, 2009 at 7:49 am
I’m not suprised, My mom was a battered woman for four years. its not uncommon for them to continue to go back to there abuser. He’ll do it over and over again, and apologize for it.. sincerely with tears. I just hope that she does get out.. before she gets really really hurt.
February 28th, 2009 at 7:51 am
I don’t think she is being silly, stupid or anything of the sort. She is just as sick as he is. Most of the times during this situations one person has an anger managment issue (among others) and the other one is also sick, either coz she forgives, or coz she hides it from the rest or justifies the act. There is no point in hoping that if they are back together this doesn’t happen again because they are both sick but not stupid so he’s going to be more careful and next time beat her up in private and she’s going to keep it quite. It is really a shame.
February 28th, 2009 at 7:54 am
It’s amazing what people do for “love”. I wouldnt’ be surprised if Chris was attacked or even killed by a “fan” over this situation (this is not a threat. i’m no fan of either.)
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February 28th, 2009 at 7:54 am
leaving a situation like this isn’t always cut and dry.
February 28th, 2009 at 7:57 am
She’s an adult, there’s only so much Dad can do. He probably spoke to her in private about it, but perhaps publicly he’s saying he supports her no matter what she chooses. Ultiimately, that’s all he can do if she listens and still chooses to go back to Chris.
February 28th, 2009 at 8:05 am
I have 100% cause to believe that Ms.Umbrella will be wacked again. And if that makes her happy, following alot more other domestic violence reports in the future, what the hell. Its her life.
February 28th, 2009 at 8:07 am
honestly, i’m not surprised to see them together. it’s classic battered women syndrome.
February 28th, 2009 at 8:17 am
If she is that stupid to go back with him maybe she deserves to get the shit knocked out of her
February 28th, 2009 at 8:20 am
Rihannas career is going downhill from now on.
I mean “take a bow” anyone?
a joke.
February 28th, 2009 at 8:21 am
I’ve been in abusive relationships before. They lay hands on you, verbally abuse you, degrade you, humiliate you, alienate you, and then say they’re sorry. My ex even bought me a dog, a laptop, a new TV, and a new refrigerator after he would hit me. He’d say he’s sorry and he’d never do it again…he’d wait a couple of days and then he’d be back to his same uncontrollable rage. I’ve been in her situation, the honeymoon phase…but what i don’t get is–she’s been humiliated in front of the entire WORLD. if i were her, I would show him the door.
This is not just a “ONE TIME THING.” she needs to get a grip.
February 28th, 2009 at 8:21 am
Not surprised 95% of them always taken them back its sad but true. He’s going to keep hitting her and she’s going to take him back over and over again until she’s either dead or has enough and leaves him for good.
February 28th, 2009 at 8:25 am
I am just as suprised as everyone else but I am wondering what her choice to return to Chris would do to her career. From what I’ve seen most people expected her to move on and to be a role model for battered women especially young women and now she returns to her abuser. Will her choice just make her look bad and will she now be vilified to some extent?
February 28th, 2009 at 8:26 am
I am not surprised……..I watch women over and over go back to men that are abusive. What is wrong with us (women) that feel the need to go back to a person who exhibits this type of abuse. I have two good friends, one has a “serial cheater” for a husband and the other has a husband who has been physically abusive………both haven’t left………very sad indeed. I call that type of behavior (I am a graduate student getting my therapist license) “deal breakers”……….if my husband ever cheated or put his hands on me……that is a deal breaker…….I wish that a woman such as Rihanna would set an example for other women……..but alas, she is most likely as insecure as anyone else. I hope she gets help…….shame on her family for not speaking out against her going back………
February 28th, 2009 at 8:29 am
Disappointing. Disappointing that she personally took him back in to her life because the chances are so high that he will hurt her again, and disappointing that it sends a message to other girls that this is OK, because unfortunately, she’s become a domestic violence “role model” or “spokesperson.”
February 28th, 2009 at 8:30 am
she needs help. this is disgusting. i bet he wined and dined her back to get keep her from pressing charges.
February 28th, 2009 at 8:32 am
It takes an average of 7 times to leave an abuser. Believe me, I know. It is not pleasant to be in an abusive relationship.
February 28th, 2009 at 8:33 am
This saddens me. I wish that she had the strength to realize that she doesn’t need him. No love is worth any amount of abuse. It’s inexcusable.
February 28th, 2009 at 8:37 am
Agree with KK’s statement about domestic abuse being a way of life in the island culture. The people in the islands remain close to their African roots and domestic violence is a way of life in Africa as well. People do not report it and don’t seem to be affected by it. Not surprised at all. I was totally expecting her to take him back.
February 28th, 2009 at 8:45 am
From where I sit, I see this as a small window into a likely childhood Ri was exposed to. We do what we know and dad is just way too okay with this behaviour. I’m just hoping they are not going to become the next Ike (?) and Tina story or that she looses her life over this decision. Anger Management is only effective as a very introductive therapy; I hope Chris pursues more help.
February 28th, 2009 at 8:45 am
What?!?!?!?! Are you fucking serious?! Why Rihanna?! Why???
February 28th, 2009 at 8:46 am
Hey there Trent! Not at all surprised. Being that this was NOT the first beating in the relationship (just the first one that was reported) Im sure this is an “accepted” part of how they communicate. Im also sure some of it is cultural, as her dad was not more aggressive towards the reconciliation. He seemed a little too calm about it all. Perhaps he beat her in the past or growing up. I dont know. Its just a shame for Rhianna and Chris because young girls buy both of their records and this may have killed their careers. What kind of role model is she now?? I hope they seperate and both get the intensive therapy they need.
Jenny in Nyc
February 28th, 2009 at 9:16 am
I’m really bothered that people keep saying “we don’t really know what happened”. Have you seen the picture? We know what happened! He beat the shit out of her. Period. Regardless of what else happened before or after or during their fight, that part of it is very black and white to me. And yes, we CAN judge him for that.
And Jordan, if you’re going to make comments like that then you should probably go on over to Perez. We’re not that ignorant here.
February 28th, 2009 at 9:22 am
I hope it’s just that her dad doesn’t want to publicly blast her or make enemies. I really hope he’s talking to her about it differently.
February 28th, 2009 at 9:34 am
Unfortunately, like others have said.. it won’t be the last time he does this to her. I had hoped that she would be able to break the cycle of abuse, as it was so public and humiliating for her. I just pray that she is able to leave before it happens again.
February 28th, 2009 at 9:34 am
Regardless what happened, the fact she is going back to someone who hit her, very sad. She is a beautiful woman, she doesn’t need him in her life. Very low self esteem that she gets back with him. I have no respect for her or anyone who does that. If he hits her again, well, there is no one to blame but herself the 2nd time around.
February 28th, 2009 at 9:38 am
i’ve been dumbfounded ever since this whole palaver emerged.
February 28th, 2009 at 9:38 am
Wow a lot of people commented on this one!!! Shock I am not I read this a few days ago and I was really disappointed to hear that she took him back so soon! I think she should have waited until she saw that he was really getting the help he needs not help from his pastor but REAL help from a prfessional.I think she comes across as desperate now but I really don’t know what took place that morning either :)
February 28th, 2009 at 9:42 am
@ Kat I think it is: this JUST came out yesterday in people magazine. trent’s on top of this like everyone else.
@ Liz P: we can blame her, but it does sound like she has battered wife’s syndrome she cannot help it. the first few times a woman will go back because she feels she needs to. my mom did that with my dad when he was physically abusive, there was love and obligation. but if chris is guilting her into thinking it’s her fault it’s adding pressure on her. let’s just pray for the both of them to see the light and go forward in life whole and happy… probably not together but let’s not blame her wholly. she’s really fragile right now.
February 28th, 2009 at 9:42 am
This is so sad and unfortunate…
I was really hoping she’d be strong enough to get herself out of such a horrible situation.
February 28th, 2009 at 9:53 am
I’m definitely not gonna say I didn’t see this coming. It’s just a really unfortunate situation. Both of them need help, and though I really, really don’t think the need to go about doing that TOGETHER, I don’t feel like I have the right to judge. It’s really none of my business, or anyone else’s. Unfortunately, though, their business is out for the public to scrutinize. And although it’s completely expected that someone of Rhianna’s status is set as a role model, I’m sure that’s the last thing on her mind.
It’s sad that both of their careers are going to suffer for this, and that they will never be looked at the same anymore.
I just don’t know what to say other than that.
February 28th, 2009 at 9:56 am
I’ve heard that there was a car accident right before, and that is how she got those injuries.
The injuries did look more like something that would happen in a car accident, with the cuts around the mouth – I’m not sure how Chris would do that, and the bumps on her forehead.
Has anyone else heard this?
February 28th, 2009 at 10:01 am
I grew up with DV in my home and wrote my thesis about it…I’m not shocked by this one bit.
They are both very sick people and need a lot of help.
We don’t know the half of it.
February 28th, 2009 at 10:07 am
I was horrified to hear this news. I can’t begin to imagine her being able to move past ‘the incident’ and be with him like it never happened. It sends a terrible message to other battered women out there who look up to her. The whole thing is just sad, sad, sad. How long before it happens again!? And it will happen again unless he is serious about getting help. This is just another classic pattern of behavior couples in abusive relationships continue to playing out. It’s so awful to watch.
February 28th, 2009 at 10:22 am
To be perfectly honest, I don’t care and I hope he smacks her around again.
She’s a complete diva and is way overrated. She can’t even sing that well.
Hopefully he’ll beat the diva out of her.
February 28th, 2009 at 10:23 am
I’m not condoning domestic violence, that’s horrible, I just effing hate that biatch
February 28th, 2009 at 10:31 am
this is terrible news. i am deeply saddened that she decided to go back to him, but when someone you love starts hitting you, there’s psychological damage that goes along with that. it’s incredibly confusing for the victim to be in that situation, and it’s not something you can just “get out of,” most of the time. you want to believe that he won’t ever do it again, or that when he does that it’s because he loves you. it’s just a really tough spot and i don’t think any of us should be trying to judge their situation.
and the added pressure from the public can’t help either.
February 28th, 2009 at 10:33 am
@blackisslimming: by saying you hope he smacks her around again, that’s condoning domestic violence. don’t kid yourself.
February 28th, 2009 at 10:34 am
@lauren — This, I do not believe. The car was impounded and dusted for fingerprints, it had not been in an accident. No other damaged cars have ever been reported on.
February 28th, 2009 at 10:37 am
@bridget: no it’s not, I just hate her, if I could, I’d beat her up myself. You’re basically implying that I think it’s fine for women in general to be beat up in their own home!! That’s bullshit, so I’m not kidding myself thank you.
February 28th, 2009 at 10:37 am
I’m not really surprised they are back together. But all I can say is I hope they BOTH seek professional help before they decide to settle down and bring children in to this nightmare. Domestic violence is a pattern and I have a feeling ran in both of their families.
February 28th, 2009 at 10:44 am
I am studying domestic violence for my PhD dissertation and a lot of the literature says that we need to think of it as a ‘process of leaving’. Leaving is difficult and often takes several tries. There’s a lot of factors that are involved that prevent women from leaving or encourage them to stay. Leaving can take years and every little act of resistance counts as part of the process of leaving.
February 28th, 2009 at 11:05 am
It’s easy to judge a relationship from the outside of it; To say “what is she thinking going back to him?” But, from the inside, when he is being contrite and you still love him, it is very different.
Also, there are women out there everyday with injuries that make Rihanna’s pictures look like a walk in the park, who go back to their abusive husbands and boyfriends out of fear or non-existent self-esteem…or because they promise not to do it again. You can’t spot a wifebeater, the first time they lay their hands on you, it is so surprising and out of character that you simply let it slide, until it happens again.
I’m actually really pissed that Rihanna went back to him. There is NO reason. And because she still loves him is NO excuse either. She is 21, she’ll get over it.
@ kk-unfortunately, you are correct about domestic abuse and the history of complacency in the West Indies. I am Trinidadian. My Aunt is still married to(but doesn’t live with) her husband who was not only abusive towards her, but towards their five boys-now grown, as well. He still comes to occasional family gatherings.
I hope this opens up a dialogue about domestic abuse in this country, how it still continues and how it is perpetuated. Some people say well we don’t know what happened that night-I’d like to know what people think had to have happened that justified RIhanna walking away from that night with contusions and a busted lip.
I also want to hear from Rihanna, because so far it seems like we have only heard from the men, Chris Brown, Rihanna’s father….I think her female fans have a right to know what the hell is going through her head that she would go back to him.
February 28th, 2009 at 11:07 am
I think this is a little too soon but couples can put this behind them and move on… I have been in a relationship that was violent…he hit me a couple of times and i said he has to get help and i left him.He said he would get help and that it would never happen again and he did get help for several months and we got back together..That was 5 years ago and he has never laid a hand on me since and he truly is a different man … So to all those people out there saying once a beater always a beater are WRONG..they can get help and become a better person..they should not be defined by that forever..People can grow and change..I do think she needs to take more time and he needs to get more help but who are any of us to say that he can’t get better.. I hope he does and learns from his mistakes….we all deserve a second chance.
February 28th, 2009 at 11:19 am
A boyfriend once slapped my face and grabbed me by the throat. I moved out the next day. I haven’t seen him since.
Rihanna is pathetic.
February 28th, 2009 at 11:25 am
@Elle: what a ridiculous statement! Her female fans don’t have a fucking right to know that!! Nobody has a ‘right’ to know what somebody else is thinking, famous or not!! How fucking stupid.
February 28th, 2009 at 11:40 am
I hope this isn’t true…so sad
February 28th, 2009 at 11:40 am
J is right on the money with that one. I’m no PhD, I’m a former victim. It took years of abuse for me to even see how bad it was. My abuser was very manipulative and had a firm control over my life that I didn’t even see coming. Often, there is no easy way out, as much as it may seem so to an outsider. Between the abuse you still love that person and are extremely conflicted about what is right and wrong. Rhianna is NOT pathetic! We don’t know EXACTLY what happened, sure. We can think what we want but ultimately she has to see it all clearly for herself. I still love my abuser dearly and sometimes wish that I was still with him. That’s what therapy is for – to reconcile the feelings victims have towards our abusers. The best advice we can give her is to be strong, know who she is, and to have faith. Send her well wishes, even if you don’t support her decision.
February 28th, 2009 at 11:43 am
I can’t believe that you guys are saying we don’t know what went down, that there are 2 sides to the story. No matter what was going down (except she had a gun to his head and was about to shoot him) a man should never hit a woman unless his life is a stake. I don’t care if she threw his keys..I don’t care if she was being a bitch..it doesn’t matter. Instead of breaking her face, break up with her. Not just that he threatened to kill her. Nothing good can come out of this. I hope Rhianna has friends and family that are telling her the truth and not just what she wants to hear.
February 28th, 2009 at 11:51 am
This is no suprise. Most battered women leave their abusive partner an average of 7 times before they finally break free. If you have never been in an abusive relationship, you can not judge. There is a whole brainwashing that goes with it. It happens to intelligent beautiful successful women. (This story is your proof.)
February 28th, 2009 at 12:53 pm
I’m disapointed with Rhianna…I thought she was stronger…”take a bow” now doesn’t mean a thing when she’ll sing that again.
I think this will go on like Whitney Houston, I just hope that her career doesn’t end too soon like Whitney’s did.
About her father: I’d be hurt with my father if he “supported” my decision of going back to a guy who beat me.
And all that bullshit about “we don’t know what happened”…what do you think that happened that can erase the fact that he beat her?! even if she called him names or whatever, I don’t see injuries on Chris Brown’s face, so even if she started an argument with him or wtv, he didn’t have the right to beat her…and that’s all that matters.
February 28th, 2009 at 1:04 pm
Do you see a certain pattern Trent? Every comment made with no surprise came from someone who is familiar with domestic violence including myself. Most of us have taken course, read books, and found a way in our lives how to deal whether it be from a prior relationship, sibling, close friend or parent. Sucks. We don’t have to know the details, we don’t have to be fans, just noting a familiarity. Shame.
February 28th, 2009 at 1:51 pm
This is so sad… mostly because my best friend is going through the same thing right now. For me, it’s FRUSTRATING because as an outsider you see the physical/emotional abuse and yet you can’t do anything about it… Especially when the victim is in denial about what happened. (”He didn’t mean it”… or… “I deserved it”…). These poor women keep going back to their dead beat boyfriends – just to get smacked around some more. My friend is such a great girl… she had everything going for her… Until she met this guy who put her under his spell… it’s been about a year and a half now… When I helped her move out of their apartment the first time, she told me all these horror stories about things that happened while they were together. And now she’s back with him. It doesn’t make sense to me how (even if it is a syndrome) you can get back involved in that situation when you KNOW just how harmful it is. I just wish there was some way for us to reach out to these women who feel they can’t do any better. And the scariest part of all – is that they usually know very well that it’s wrong. They keep the abuse secret from EVERYone for as long as they can…. so what is it that makes them stay? And what can we do to help an abuse victim see things from a new light??
Also, I feel that Rihanna’s dad did the right thing by standing behind his daughter… Honestly – battered women will come to you when they decide they want to… until then, all we can do is wait and hope the day comes when they finally decide they need us. At least that’s the way I look at it… When my friend finally realizes she is better than this – I’ll be here for her. (Even after her b/f refuses to let her see me).
February 28th, 2009 at 2:01 pm
We absolutely do have the right to judge Rihanna and Chris Brown and the reluctance to do so is what will send a negative message to girls. We know she didn’t bruise herself in that car, he did it. And now they are back together. It is dysfunctional and self-destructive. I fear Rihanna is going to have to learn the hard way and that is very sad.
February 28th, 2009 at 2:22 pm
Rihanna is an adult…and if she decides to get beat up again quite frankly hr father has no power over that decision
February 28th, 2009 at 2:35 pm
THANK YOU TRENT!!!!! That’s EXACTLY what I was thinking! If one of my two girls grew up to be in a relationship with an abuser, there is NO WAY I would “support her decision”. I would HOPE & PRAY that I would take the high road, and NOT support her decision & try DESPERATELY to get her to leave the man. It’s hard to be at odds with your child, but you have to do WHAT IS RIGHT and actually PARENT.
February 28th, 2009 at 2:41 pm
As a celebrity you simply ARE a role model REGARDLESS of whether or not you want to be. As a role model, she had a HUGE opportunity to be an example to little girls everywhere, that it is NOT acceptable to be hurt by a “loved” one. She COULD HAVE stood up for victims of domestic abuse…how many people could have been saved because they gained the strength to stand up???…instead she chose to send a message JUST AS LOUD–that’s it’s okay to let someone abuse you. It’s sad & wrong.
February 28th, 2009 at 4:08 pm
No one is saying it outright, but maybe dad is not
condemning CB because he is also a woman/wife
beater. Several have mentioned about the culture
in some islands. Whatever. It is so wrong and
so sad that she feels she has to put up with that
treatment. If she grew up in that environment
like CB did, there doesn’t seem much hope.
February 28th, 2009 at 4:33 pm
While assault on any sex, male or female, is wrong, I’m still iffy about this. Maybe they both beat the hell out of each other and that’s why they’re back together, because they were both wrong. I don’t think ANY of us should judge because NONE of us were there.
February 28th, 2009 at 8:43 pm
This ticks me off to the fullest. Rihanna is dead to me. I already hated her anyway though.
February 28th, 2009 at 8:54 pm
they both need to get counseling if they are gonna go back togeather not just anger management classes for him she needs to be dealt with as well going to miami is not dealing with this issue and now they will expect fans to accept this and go back to what it was they are too young to be togeather and left to do as they please some displine on both parties is needed i guess money talks for both, this will not get chris out of the charges the DA can charge him without her
February 28th, 2009 at 11:28 pm
how is this our business?
February 28th, 2009 at 11:42 pm
The thing is, we really don’t know what happened that night except that Rihanna was assaulted. The biggest assumption and probably rightly so is that Chris Brown beat her. I agree with Trent that even though I couldn’t let someone who did that back into my life again it’s really between them. As for her father, I’m not a parent so I don’t really know how that love works between a parent to their child. I would not be able to support my loved ones in this either, but in a father-daughter situation? I’m sure my own father has supported me at time when he didn’t really want to. So while I can’t fault the guy I also would hope that he has a little talk with Chris because I would be wary of him for a long time.
March 1st, 2009 at 7:52 am
He has bad taste. That’s all I can say.
March 1st, 2009 at 8:15 pm
Eek. Speaking as someone who has been in an abusive relationship, NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! Run away, run far, far away! And my situation NEVER left any marks on me like Rhianna (I have no idea how to spell her name) had. The worst I ever got were bruised ribs (nothing on my skin) and I GOT THE HELL OUT. I’m now married to the love of my life and he treats me like a queen. If I were still with that asshole, I know I’d still be getting smacked around for nothing. It took me a LONG time to end it but I did end it. Leave him!!! THEY DON’T CHANGE.
March 2nd, 2009 at 6:10 am
I knew it! What’d I tell ya? A publicity stunt. bloody celebs.
March 2nd, 2009 at 6:47 am
I don’t doubt that it happened. I think this is very common for the abused to go back when they don’t have the right support network in place.
Rhianna is an adult so her family can’t make her do anything, plus they are probably on her payroll and that probably effects what “power” they have over her.
If they wanted what was best for their loved one, the would likely encourage her to go to counseling and keep some distance for a while. If at the end of the counseling and being a part, she still thinks it’s best to be with him….then that’s on her.
I think from a public stand point, it does send a bad message to women and to men. Chris is essentially rewarded for bad behavior and Rhianna is saying that she isn’t worth much.
March 2nd, 2009 at 10:30 am
I have to say that I find about 99% of the posts on here to be awful. Do people really like this much empathy? The question isn’t “Why did she go back to him?” The question is “What kind of PERSON BEATS SOMEONE THEY LOVE!?”
I’m a 27- yr old, educated, successful woman. I’m confident (now) and happy to have the life I have. I’m also a survivor of domestic abuse. And it’s the world’s lack of empathy and understand that angers. You should all be ashamed to even QUESTION her reasoning. She was BEATED.
AKS is completely correct on how the abuser manipulates and controls you. Now, I wish our society would stop being so quick to judge the abused and would instead see the abuser as the sick, twisted individual that they are.
March 3rd, 2009 at 5:48 pm
DUMB BITCH
March 5th, 2009 at 3:45 pm
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March 6th, 2009 at 6:02 pm
i just wanna ask!!
cause my friend told me that they’re married!!
is that true???
if u know!!
please email me!!
this is my email!!
youbitch_shutup@yahoo.com
i know its kinda weird but i just really wanna know!!
thanks!!