Comments on: Kids Will Do Anything To Fit In These Days

By: Crystal

Crystal — Mon, 23 Jun 2008 12:08:19 +0000

Well put Trent.

By: Blindjulie

Blindjulie — Sun, 22 Jun 2008 17:51:56 +0000

Why has no one mentioned the cost of raising children. How can a 16 year old support a baby? She can’t – her parents will have to. And what about the other fathers? These girls are completely selfish – their immature decision has impacted so many people’s lives. These girls will end up on welfare or woking for mcdonalds b/c none of them have college educations yet unless they’re lucky enough to have wealthy parents who will raise their babies. This is such a shame. Yes, young girls sometimes get pregnant, my mistake – but this was purposely without thought to what happens after the baby shower. I guess there’s a reason why we can’t vote till we’re 18 or drink till 21 – our youth today can’t be trusted.

By: vicks

vicks — Sun, 22 Jun 2008 11:08:32 +0000

Sex ed is only about the prevention of pregnancy, not about the challenge of raising a child. I read about an experiment where they placed high-risk kids (I am assuming this assesment was based on class and geography) into a program to expose them to babies with colic and it decreased their rate of teen pregnancy. I am a mother and I love my kid so much I feel like my heart is going to explode sometimes. But young children are inherently selfish (they are too young understand how their behavior affects others) and will NOT provide unconditional love.

It’s one thing to see a young girl with her cute little baby dressed up like an adorable doll and want one. It’s another thing to wake up several times during the night to feed and change him, bath him, clean up when he pukes, pees and poops on himself and probably you, bounce him for hours while he screams at the top of his lungs. I think kids should learn WHY they should prevent prgnancy.

Am I the only on that suspects a self esteem issue? I understand the need for unconditional love and, unfortunately, sometimes the only person who loves you unconditionally is yourself. I am not one to judge who has children and if they are married or how old they are, but I am certian that these girls are missing out on life experience that would make them better parents when they are older. And that the teen years they are loosing to parenthood is to the detriment of both them and their children. So sad.

By: KatieP

KatieP — Sun, 22 Jun 2008 05:07:13 +0000

123.. why do you have so much hate? Man, relax…

By: Kim

Kim — Sun, 22 Jun 2008 04:55:17 +0000

123 SUCKS…. You only wish you were as hot as Trent!!!!!! HATER…

By: Ann

Ann — Sun, 22 Jun 2008 01:47:57 +0000

I have to say that I disagree with what a lot of commentors are saying about daycare in the school. This is not an unusual thing, and is very beneficial to teen moms AND their children. These at-school daycares were in large part put in place in the early 90s when teen pregnancy was at an alltime high. My sister had her daughter at the beginning of her Junior year, when she had just turned 17. Because of the daycare on campus, she was able to graduate from high school. She also had to work in the day care and take parenting classes. I don’t know if the school in the article is the same, but every school with a daycare I’ve had first hand knowledge of (and A LOT more than you know of exist) follow the same guidelines.

Should teens be getting pregnant, especially on purpose? NO! But do you seriously think that not having a daycare in the school would make them rethink their choice? That’s just like the parents that argue sex ed should be abstinence-only based, and that handing out condoms is what makes kids have sex…as if they wouldn’t do it if they just didn’t have the darn free condoms. Daycares were prevented to help deal with an already existing epidemic and to give the BABIES the best start possible by socializing them and giving teen parents the parenting lessons most of them really need.

By: Coco

Coco — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 19:09:27 +0000

hey at least the bum, got laid.

By: danna

danna — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 17:38:02 +0000

those poor babies.

By: Hilary

Hilary — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 16:41:10 +0000

Unfortunately, I have heard about this story, because I live in Gloucester. While I am out of high school, and attended a different high school, this story has been going on for a while, and has caused a lot of discourse in our community. It is totally inappropriate for these girls to be so young, and having children, and making the plans to become pregnant at such a young age. This story was causing huge problems before the “pact” came out into the open, because there are usually only four pregnancies each year at the high school, which is still a lot in my opinion, considering it is a small community. Lax sex ed curriculum, the refusal of the school board to allow the distribution of contraceptives, and providing a day care for the teen parents are all parts of the problem. Another part of the problem is the fact that many of the parents may not be supervising their children, and I know many grandmothers, that raise these babies as if they are their own, and are excited when they find out their daughters are pregnant. There is no one reason this happened, and the media can’t be blamed. If the teenagers made this pact, influenced by celebrities and movies, they have bigger problems with their perceptions of reality.

I am still amazed this story has made national headlines, and that it showed up on Trent’s blog.

By: Angie

Angie — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 15:50:17 +0000

This story makes me sick. When I was in highschool it was NOT cool to get pregnant. As for the comment left by 123 – get a life loser. If you don’t like what Trent has to say on HIS OWN site, then don’t come here.

By: DalGal

DalGal — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 13:53:14 +0000

Where were these girls parents when this was going on? To simply blame this on a movie like Juno (which actually had a very good message) is asine! Our country must have sex-ed to educate these girls. Obviously their parents aren’t around enough if they feel the need to have babies to make them feel loved unconditionally.

I also feel this country has so many so double standards about this. How many celebs have had kids in the past year without benefit of marriage yet we celebrate and plaster their pictures all over the internet and magazine covers. What message does that send to kids? Lets see: Halle Berry, Angelina Jolie, Nicole Richie come to mind but there are many more.

Parents, sit down with you children and set good examples for them. Quit blaming everyone else and do your job right.

By: Liz

Liz — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 08:15:17 +0000

It is not up to the schools to educate young people about sex. It is up to the parents. I asked my Mum when I was about 10. She sat me down with all of her nursing books and explained everything to me. These kids do not have a clue what they are in for. I read this story and was horrified at how casual they feel about what they are doing. I feel bad for the young ladies and more so for the children they are bringing into the world.
PS: I won second place in 6th grade for a report about a Human Sexuality thesis I wrote for the PTA award. Guess I was a bit ahead of the times. That was back in the early Seventies. Back in the times when your parents had to sign off for you to take the course. Thanks to my Mum. A great lady.
PPS: Trent, I would love to meet you the next time I go to LA.

By: meg

meg — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 06:34:45 +0000

the lack of proper sex education in this country is completely ridiculous. not only are they too young to be pregnant, they’ve completely made themselves vulnerable to contracting sexually transmitted diseases. i highly doubt STDs crossed any of these girls’ minds, particularly the one who had sex with the homeless man. it horrifies me to think of what diseases he may have. and with that many desperate teenagers having that much unprotected sex, it only takes one kid with one disease to spread it many others.

i think for many kids, things they observe in the media is their ONLY form of sex education. movies are fantasy, and the lives of celebrities are often so far from our own that they too can be characterized as fantasy. most of us are able to distinguish celebrity fantasy from the reality of ordinary life (with bills to pay and babies to feed). i think for these girls their narrow understanding of pregnancy stops short of actually giving birth, which is then followed by a lifetime of responsibility. we cannot expect these girls to have any sort of emotional maturity and foresight, and it would be naive for US to believe that they aren’t beginning to experiment in more “mature” activities, including sex. it is OUR responsibility to educate them with the tools they need to make not only make wiser choices, but to protect their emotional and physical health (and possibly the health of their unborn children).

By: Amber

Amber — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 04:55:21 +0000

I started to read the comments to listen to what I thought would be caring or even insightful words.
I get not even two comments in where i see someone calling them idiots.

Its not even those 17 girls. This type of thing has happened ever since i started high school. In my school there were best friends who happened to end up pregnant. Every where you turn as a teen you see divorce if its not your parents its your best friends’. The girls just want someone to love them. To them, as a parent, the baby has to love them. They have someone to love also.
I am not saying that its right or they are even ready for that kind of responsibility but you can’t belittle them for believing that it would solve their problem. Yes they might need counseling, but its their life.

By: Amy*

Amy* — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 03:54:49 +0000

I think this website (and others for that matter) are def NOT responsible for “glorifying” teen pregnancy. When JL got pregnant there was so much speculation about her losing her show. Her mothers book was put on hold. It was obvious by the way that they handled it that they were embarassed and knew it would blow up on them. That’s the reality of it. I also don’t think the school is to blame for offering day care. That is along the same lines of thinking as giving out condoms encourages sex. Those girls need education and they need counseling for their low self esteem*

By: Jaddedkitten

Jaddedkitten — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 03:06:34 +0000

sex ed. is not the problem how can you stop kids who want to have a baby who knowly did everthing to make sure it happen JL’s baby was unplanned i can understand that these thing happen my mom got pregnant when she was 15 with my brother but these stupid little kids have no idea how hard taking care of a baby is i took care of my 16 month year old nephew for a month when i was 12 and brother was in the hospital what a wake call that hellish nightmare i’m 19 and still a virgin cause i don’t want kids anytime soon maybe never and condoms are only 97% effective and you can still get pregnant on the pill

By: Kelly

Kelly — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 03:00:46 +0000

This is pure insane!!!!! What are these girls thinking?

OH and 123 if you think this site is such trash then why are you on it fuck head?

By: Jackie

Jackie — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 02:54:19 +0000

gah, these girls make actual teen parents look even worse. Its great that their school has a daycare and provides it for them, but the fact is these girls ruin it for everyone else because now people are going to say that the school providing daycare is encouraging teens to have kids. >.>
love your posts no matter what though Trent. Btw my sons name is trent :]

By: Dez

Dez — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 01:50:34 +0000

This is insane!!!

But I do have to thank you for sharing this, Trent. I hadn’t heard about it until now.

By: Meghan

Meghan — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 01:43:07 +0000

These girls should be slapped.
Their parents should be slapped harder.

By: Lana

Lana — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 01:33:02 +0000

And I don’t understand how people can blame movies, and this site. If everybody jump off the cliff, do you go ahead and jump too? What about personal accountability and the girls’ parents? It’s like blaming a girl for getting raped because she wore a short skirt. Pleassee.

By: Lana

Lana — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 01:30:26 +0000

I’d slap those girls silly. No kid deserves such selfish mothers (moms to be). It’s not fair to the kids. Children deserve to be brought into this world with someone that has some brains, directions, and goals in life. Stupid Girls! Those babies deserves better than some dumb ass whore to be their mother.

By: anne mowery

anne mowery — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 01:17:20 +0000

Everyone is focusing on the stupid girls rather that the tragedy unfolding for the children coming into this world. What about them. Don’t they deserve better than this??
Do these girls really want the responsibility for the welfare and well-being of these babies. What a tragedy .What do you say to your child when he or she asks about their father and you have to tell him it was a 24 year old homeless man whom you do not even know.What a buch of selfish girls.

By: Suzanne

Suzanne — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 00:06:37 +0000

I live here in MA and this has been all over the news in the past few days. I am a 26 year old single mother to a beautiful 2 year old girl. Even though I had her at the age of 23, I still feel like I lost (and am still losing) out on many of my reckless “young” years. I was shocked to read these stories and see this on the news – who knew this would happen in our state???? I am willing to bet there are plenty more of these pacts happening across America. Kudos to the school administration for figuring this out and making it so public. Maybe some other kids out there will learn from THIS lesson rather than the JL Spears-type lessons. I don’t agree with the school providing a childcare center, but I also have to commend them for being so forward thinking in 2008 when the reality is, there are single unwed teenage mothers. It’s really sad that the younger teens made this pact…. it makes me want to lock my daughter up and not let her out until she’s 21!!! (Kidding.)

By: CoCo

CoCo — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 00:03:58 +0000

Thats lame that they are blaming Juno! I thought it was a good movie to show that teen motherhood is NOT the best way to go… And Knocked Up, hello… Career woman! Its just stupid girls who, more than likely, grew up in homes that lacked a healthy environment, so are looking for a poor substitute for their own bad upbringing. Its SO SAD! Here’s to hoping that some of them get smart and try to follow the example in Juno of giving it up and getting on with their lives, and being kids until they are READY.